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Dear Daddypotamus . . .

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Dear Daddypotamus,

We spent the morning of our wedding day roaming a foreign city in search of stamps. Not to mail postcards, of course, but to appease the crazy tax laws in Vieques. Do you remember us? “Colecturía? Colecturía?” I’ve never been so happy to be a clueless tourista. It was the beginning of so many adventures.

However, my FAVORITE memory from that morning was our trip to the doctors office to get our health certificate. With a serious smile and a thick Puerto Rican accent, our physician spoke fifteen words I’ll never forget.

“I have to make sure you’re not drunk, not crazy  . . . . and you don’t have syphillis.”

Check. Check. And . . . oh wait, about that crazy part.

Just kidding

But truthfully on paper it doesn’t look good for us. It’s not just that I spent my last night as a single woman sleeping behind a bar or that we didn’t have a wedding cake. Forget that you’ve had your brain zapped and we named my last physician “Dr. Quack.” The fact that I wash my hair with mud and brush my teeth with clay? Not even worth mentioning.

As I dug through photos to put this slideshow together I realized some very important pictures were missing. Not just the ones of us rolling on the sand like beached whales . . . the real bummer is that neither of us thought to make our huge fights a Kodak moment. There are no pictures of our “enthusiastic disagreements,” but there have certainly been plenty of them along the way. And honestly they deserve their place here because they are as much a part of our story as anything.

That’s where the crazy part comes in: If I had known what was coming on that bright morning in Vieques I probably would have thought we were nothing less than certifiable for going forward. Love takes more work than my “Little Mermaid” and “Beauty and the Beast” upbringing prepared me for. Remember me trying to stow away in your bags as you headed to The University of Copenhagen for a semester abroad?

Nothing but smiles there, but what was supposed to be a simple four month adventure turned into an excruciatingly painful test of our relationship that lasted much, much longer. As I held that picture I thought to myself, what if it had ended there?

There would have been no dance under a hundred-thousand blazing stars on our first night as husband and wife.

And remember how hard our first year was? What if it had ended THERE?

We would have missed not one but TWO of the sweetest blessings on earth.

How To Wash Your Hair With Clay

Think of all we would have missed

Saturday morning pancake breakfasts, naptime snuggles, chasing seagulls on the beach. Are we flawed? YES! This year has been one of the hardest of our lives. Sure, it’s all well and good to meet the love of your life when you are 10 years old, but years later when you’re facing overnight job loss* and a very uncertain future the story doesn’t seem to matter so much.

There are times when I’ve looked at you and thought that I barely recognize the man I married. Not that you’ve changed for the worse – quite the opposite, actually – it’s just that we are both so very different now.

Though it’s kind of scary, it’s also amazing in a way. We get to grow, change, and fall in love all over again. If I had to count, I’d say this is our third marriage. :)

And now, without further ado, a few of my favorite moments from the journey . . .

* Just in case you are wondering, we are OKAY! Daniel is working as a consultant while we transition into something new

**Look closely at the slideshow and you might capture a glimpse of Food Renegade during our college days. Yes we’re cool like that.

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28 Responses to Dear Daddypotamus . . .

  1. Dani says:

    Such an amazing video! Congrats!

  2. Rebecca Miller says:

    Love, Love, Love!!! I watched one of those christain movies that is awesome because it doesn’t challenge you standards with language etc, but not necessarily awesome because of the acting, ya know? Anyway they were talking about a couple getting married and they said most people don’t get to the good stuff in marriage because first you have to get through the bad. I loved it too many times we sugar coat it and say marriage is sooo wonderful, and it is, if you make it through the bad it is. They also said it isn’t only good, when you make it through the bad, but it is better than you can imagine. Again I so agree. 14 years in and it is soooo much better then I thought it would be but we had our what if we had given up moments too. So grateful we didn’t! Happy anniversary!!!

  3. Brittany says:

    Brought tears to my eyes. You have a beautiful family :)

  4. Angelina says:

    The slideshow is so beautiful! And I love how real you are and how true it is, if you had quit when it was hard, when times were really difficult, you wouldn’t have created this precious family. It was all worth it! Happy Anniversary!!

  5. Marianne says:

    Aww! <3 Beautiful! Wish you a happy anniversary!

  6. Sara says:

    Beautiful. Sweet pictures of all of you:) Happy Anniversary!

  7. AShley says:

    What fun to see your family. Wish you all were still here:( I showed Ca pic of K and she remembered her and said “we played together at H house when we were babies.” So sweet. The things they remember!

  8. Katie says:

    This is so sweet! Made me well up a little; hope you two have a blessed anniversary!

  9. tammy says:

    Beautiful!! Happy Anniversary! May you both be blessed with many more years of this grand adventure. We will be celebrating our 20 year anniversary in August of this year. There’s a photo that was taken on our wedding day and I’m in the Rosie the Riveter pose standing next to the hubby and every time I would come across that photo, I always wondered what possessed me to take that pose. A few weeks ago, I was thinking of what 20 years has meant and immediately HARD WORK/Rosie the Riveter came to mind. I’m going to have that photo blown up and framed for our anniversary party and hopefully, I will be able to come up with beautiful words to go along with it! xo

  10. Sabrina says:

    I thoroughly enjoyed this video. Thanks for sharing and many more happy years together!

  11. Noel @ the Shepherd's farm says:

    That was wonderful and I loved the slideshow!!!

  12. Kim T. says:

    Love your gorgeous family!!! Adorable video! Thanks for sharing.

  13. Georgianna says:

    That’s a beautiful story! I love the music you chose too! Who’s singing?

  14. Sandrine Love says:

    My dearest Heather — this moved me to tears several times over. Thank you for the openness and authenticity you have offered us readers … and happy, happy anniversary! Much, much love to you both!

  15. Kristen @ Food Renegade says:

    Hey! I got circled in that college retreat photo! Why am I circled?

    And am I right in guessing that Steve must have been the one taking that picture since he’s nowhere to be seen?

    And TRINITY. She was a good dog. :( She looked so young and healthy in that pic, not at all like in her later more pathetic years.

    Look at me, talking about ME! Happy Anniversary, you two.

  16. Leah G says:

    Happy Anniversary! We just celebrated ours and I have to say I had many of the same thoughts. It is an amazing feeling to wake up next to the one (well ones) you love every day. Watching them change mentally and physically on this journey.falling further in love at every turn..even the hard ones!

  17. Jennifer says:

    What an amazing video. You have a beautiful family. Anyone can plainly see that your husband is still in love with you as you are with him. Congratulations! Happy Anniversary.

  18. Krystal Wight Armstrong says:

    Did you go to DBU? I spotted Dr. Naugle and The Burg! I started there as a Freshman in ’02, and met my wonderful husband there in ’03 :) And most of my true life-long friends were made at DBU!

    Anyway, you have such a lovely family! I found your blog from your guest post on ‘The Nourishing Gourmet,’ about Katie’s teeth; and I’ve really enjoyed clicking around your site since then. I guess most of it recently has been via my phone, because I’m just noticing your design changed (so cute!). I’ve just (last week) moved from TX to Northwest AR, and am in the slow process of trying to go all clean/whole/real-food/organic (whatever one calls this lifestyle). There seems like soo much to learn, so I think I’m going to try to work my way through your posts from the beginning. Thank you for being such a helpful, and well-researched resource!
    (PS- Thank you also for being well-written, and even citing references[!], like a good, genuine writer. These days it’s so hard to find even professional/published columns and articles that use formal writing methods. It’s pretty awesome of you, and appreciated!) …also, sorry this got long- I’m a ‘words’ person 😉

  19. Courtney says:

    You two/four are so stinkin cute!! Fortunately for me, you remind me of my husband (who I met at age 14), and our amazing miracle babies (almost 10 month old b/g twins)! We’d be friends if we knew each other!

    LOVE everything you do and can’t stop scouring your blog :)

  20. Jayme says:

    Such a beautiful family!

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  22. Nicole says:

    So sweet – thanks for sharing your video. Beautiful family

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