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Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?

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As the childhood sage of Sleepless in Seattle put it, Daddypotamus and I are MFEO.*

For the most part we enjoy the same books, T.V. shows, etc. We both LOVE the Caribbean and go there as often as we can. We agree on how to parent our children. We share a common background of faith and pray together often(ish). There is this one thing about kids though: We have never agreed on birth control.

I was already insanely attracted to Daniel when it first came up that he didn’t believe in using any kind of birth control whatsoever.** Pretty sneaky of him, because if that had come up earlier I would have been OUT. OF. THERE.

I thought he was CRAZY. Twenty-one year old me wasn’t sure I ever wanted to become a mom. But six, eight, or ten kids? I told him no way.

Birth control was almost a deal breaker for us . . .

But as I said before we are MFEO and stuff, so I began looking into other options. You know what surprised me? It didn’t take much digging for me to discover an ugly truth I’d never heard before.

[Before I go on, I want you to know that I feel a little bit like throwing up as I type this. This is probably similar to what policemen feel like when they have to knock on someone’s front door and tell them that their husband and the father of their children has been in a serious car wreck. I don’t like to drop life-changing information on unsuspecting people. But I would be seriously angry if the messenger decided just not to tell me. Because as much as I don’t want to be told, I know I need to know. So I’m telling you what I would want to know]

Despite the fact that they are referred to as contraceptives (Latin for against conception, meaning that it prevents conception), birth control pills cause abortions.

My goal in saying this is not to stir up controversy about whether abortions are morally permissible. Others have made arguments on both sides that are much more persuasive than anything I have to say. Since it will be painfully obvious when I start using words like baby to describe a fertilized egg, I should go ahead and say that I believe life begins at conception. But even if you don’t believe that, read on. At issue here is whether or not people are being mislead regarding what the Pill actually does. Everyone has a right to informed consent, and that is not what is happening.

The Three Mechanisms

There are three mechanisms that give the Pill its high rate of effectiveness. First, it suppresses ovulation most of the time. When that fails, the second mechanism kicks in. The second mechanism involves thickening cervical mucus so that it is difficult for sperm to migrate to the fallopian tubes and join with an ovum.

When THAT fails and sperm reaches the ovum and all the magical right things happen, a woman becomes pregnant. Unfortunately, the birth control pill has one last hand to deal and like all gambles, the odds are with the house. The fine print that comes with birth control pills invariably goes something like this:

Combination oral contraceptives act by suppression of gonadotrophins. Although the primary mechanism of this action is inhibition of ovulation, other alterations include changes in the cervical mucus, which increase the difficulty of sperm entry into the uterus, and changes in the endometrium, which reduce the likelihood of implantation.

The Physicians Desk Reference, 1995, 1775

In plain English what this means is that the pill alters the uterus from an environment that is designed to nourish and protect new life into one that is essentially barren of the necessary nutrients to sustain a child. Typically, a uterus needs to be between 5 -13 mm thick to sustain a pregnancy. The average thickness in pill users is 1.1mm.ยน

Now maybe you’re thinking “People get pregnant on the pill all the time and carry their babies to term, so I don’t think that third mechanism is real. If a woman gets pregnant on the pill she’ll stay pregnant.” It’s tempting to believe that, but consider this: The first two mechanisms are real and sometimes fail. The same is true of the third. In his book, “Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?” Randy Alcorn says:

It is significant that the “morning after pill” is in fact nothing but a combination of several standard birth control pills taken in high dosages. When the announcement was made, the uninformed public probably assumed that the high dosage makes birth control pills do something they were otherwise incapable of doing. But the truth is that it simply increases the chances of doing what it already sometimes does – cause an abortion.

Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?, pp 65-66

We have assumed that the pill’s failure rate accurately depicts the number of times a woman conceives while on the pill. Unfortunately, because of the third mechanism there may be many more pregnancies that women are never aware occurred because they ended prematurely. Of course, no studies have been done to determine how often the first two mechanisms fail (who would fund them, the drug companies that have a vested interest in selling them?). Here’s a helpful analogy;

Imagine a farmer who has two places he might plant seed. One is rich, brown soil that has been tilled, fertilized and watered. The other is on hard, thin, dry and rocky soil. If the farmer wants as much seed as possible to take hold and grow, where will he plant the seed? The answer is obvious – on the fertile ground.

Now you could say to the farmer that his preference for the rich, tilled, moist soil is based on the “theoretical,” because he has probably never seen a scientific study that proves this soil is more hospitable than the thin, hard, dry soil. Likely, such a study has never been done. In other words, there is no absolute proof. The farmer might reply to your skeptical challenge based on his years of observation: “I know good soil when I see it – sure, I’ve seen some plants grow in the hard, thin soil too, but the chances of survival are much less than in the good soil.”

Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?, p. 51

Why Haven’t I Heard This Before?

Words evolve. Did you know that according to The Mad Logophileapology once meant to defend against an accusation”? It’s from the Greek word apologia, meaning “defense.” If someone time traveled from ancient Greece to now, can you imagine their confusion when someone tried to apologize to them? What if you traveled to a future where people spoke English but the meanings had changed? Believe it or not, you already have.

Historically, when a sperm and egg joined to form a fertilized ovum with completely unique DNA, that was defined as conception.ย  When a woman has conceived she is pregnant. Duh, right?

Not exactly. In 1976 the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists redefined conception to mean the point at which a fertilized ovum implants in the mother’s uterine lining. That’s six days after the egg and sperm have joined. For six days that the child has been growing, but according to this new definition any chemical which prevents a fertilized ovum from being able to attach to it’s mother for nourishment has “prevented conception/pregnancy.” What?

So if your doctor tells you that the pill prevents conception and is not abortifacient, he or she is correct according to the new definition, but probably not the definition you were thinking of when you asked. Ironically, according to a former drug rep for Whitehall-Robins, a sister company to Wyeth-Ayerst (one of the top producers of the pill), your doctor is probably unaware that he is being misleading.

In company meetings information on the Pill was covered in a totally different way than other products. Our training had always been open and relaxed, and we went through detailed instruction on how every product works; we were expected to explain how they worked to physicians. But the approach to the birth control pills was completely different – the approach was, “don’t worry about how they work, the point is they do; don’t ask questions, just give out the samples.”

Testimony of Karen Witt as documented in Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?, p. 54

Those that are not fully convinced by Karen’s testimony can do what Randy Alcorn did: Contact each pill maker directly and ask if the pill prevents implantation. Although reluctantly, each company confirmed in one way or another that the Pill is designed to prevent a six day old embryo from implanting in its mothers uterus. The trick, it seems, is to ask exactly the right questions. When Alcorn called Wyeth-Ayerst he was read to from a script and then offered information via mail.

It was clearly a form letter designed for those expressing concerns about abortion, and contained the precise contents that Adrianne [the customer service rep he had spoken with] had quoted to me. Also enclosed was a colorful booklet entitled Birth Control With The Pill. In the section, “How the Pill Works,” it states, “The pill mainly prevents pregnancy in two ways.” It then speaks of only the first two mechanisms and makes no reference whatsoever to the third, the prevention of implantation.

The detailed, fine print “professional labeling” was also enclosed, and as reflected in the PDR [Physician’s Desk Reference], it states “alterations include changes in . . . the endometrium (which reduces the likelihood of implantation).

It struck me that virtually everyone receiving this information would read the large print, attractive, colorful, easy-to-understand booklet (which makes no mention of the abortive mechanism), and almost no one would read the extremely small print, black and white, technically worded and completely unattractive sheet – the one that acknowledges in the fine print that the Pill sometimes prevents implantation.

Please Don’t Send Me Hate Mail (But it’s okay if you really feel the need to)

There is a mountain of evidence indicating that the Pill is both a contraceptive and a contra-implantive.*** I believe that the public is being intentionally kept in the dark about the third mechanism and that people who believe life begins at fertilization have unknowingly participated in chemical abortions. It is wrong of drug companies to obscure facts about their products in a way that causes individuals to unknowingly violate their own conscience.

I wish I was wrong about this, I REALLY, REALLY do. Other than barrier methods and Natural Family Planning, there are no options that do not have an abortifacient component. Norplant, Depo-Provera, RU 486 and the Mini-Pill are all confirmed abortifacients. There is some debate as to whether the IUD is an abortifacient, but so far the evidence indicates that it is.

For this reason, along with the fact that I don’t like putting chemicals in my body, Daniel and I have practiced Natural Family Planning throughout our marriage. Honestly, it has been inconvenient and frustrating at times and I wish there was an easier way. Daniel and I have never fully agreed on what that way could or should be, so we’re sticking with this for now.

So, if you haven’t run across this research before I’d like to know: Are you convinced? If so, does it change anything for you?


ยน Postfertilization effects of oral contraceptives and their relation to informed consent by Drs. Walter Larimore and Joseph Stanford

*Made for each other

** Both of our views have changed. I used to be fully supportive of all kinds of birth control and he was completely against them. Thorough debate and the experience of actually having children has caused us to reexamine our convictions. There’s too much to say on the subject for this little footnote, so I’ll just say that Daddypotamus is much more comfortable with taking an active role in stewarding our fertility through natural family planning and I have baby fever :)

***Most of the data cited in Randy Alcorn’s book comes from doctors, scientists, researchers and the pill manufacturers themselves –not prolife advocates with an agenda to push.

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150 Responses to Does the Birth Control Pill Cause Abortions?

  1. Cory says:

    Some people will turn a blind eye and wish it wasn’t true, some will attack, and some will accept it with an open mind and maybe research it for themselves.

  2. Julie says:

    Thank you for this! I was on the pill for yrs at a young age and as a result I got gallbladder disease and polyps which I then had to have it removed. I didn’t find out about the pill’s ugly truth until after I had already been on it for about 5yrs. I am so incredibly sad and sickened! I pray that I never concieved without knowing it :( I have 4 beautiful babies now and can’t imagine if I had caused the death (or deaths) of my unborn child(ren). Thank you Lord for your unconditional love and mercy!

  3. Maria Bloomfield via FB says:

    Was just telling someone about this the day before yesterday.

  4. Janette Linden McCune via FB says:

    Thank you for writing this and spreading the word. My husband and I are Natural Family Planning teachers and we teach this as part of our class. It is the unfortunate truth. This is one of the reasons the Catholic Church is against contraceptives.

  5. Erin says:

    Thank you for stepping up and writing about this topic and helping to educate readers. I’ve known it for many many years. My husband and I are NFP users/doers as well. NFP can be frustrating, but in the end is so much more worth it!

  6. Bethany Warner via FB says:

    Some do…

  7. Laurie says:

    I found this out after my first child. I was stunned by the numerous miscarriages reported in my friends and wanted more information. I concieved my first child while on the pill. I thank the Lord for knowing better than I and my husband because I certainly wouldn’t want to give her back ;). I don’t find this controversal at all. But yes, more like informative and Buyer beware. So many people struggling with fertility today have consumed some type of birth control and have no idea the affect it itself has had on their current fertility. Great information Heather. Hope this helps lots of families.

  8. Kasi says:

    Nope, not convinced and changes nothing for me except maybe my willingness to refer people to your blog. A life may be possible after sperm meets egg but it is not yet human to me and is not a baby. Even without contraceptives, many many fertilized eggs fail to ever implant or grow into a baby. I am pretty sure two months into trying to get pregnant, I had a spontaneous abortion – no chemicals involved. But I still would not call a six-day blob of cells a human baby, though it has that potential if all goes well. And as I write I am over 39 weeks pregnant. That hasn’t changed my stance either. You have a right to your opinion of course, but I totally disagree.

    • Heather says:

      Hi Kasi, I’m sorry you feel that way. I know not everyone holds the beliefs I do and my purpose in writing this was not to try to persuade people one way or another. I truly believe, though, that everyone has a right to informed consent and yet the information given about how contraception works is often very misleading. My goal was simply to bring clarity to that. Hope to see you around soon. <3

  9. Ashley says:

    I realize this post is older. But I am just now seeing it, and just now found your blog. I want to Thank You for seeking God’s will in whether to do this blog post or not. And submitting to Him in doing so. I have believe Children are a Blessing from the Lord and every child deserves a chance at Life. If you do not want a child use a form of birth control that will prevent life from beginning. After Life has started it should not be killed, by human hands. It is in God’s hands. But, that is my extreme Pro-Life view of things.

  10. Lindsee says:

    Wow, this post blew me away! I honestly had no idea. I have always hated being on birth control but I have been made to feel like there are no other alternatives out there. My fiance hates condoms and I do too. They make sex just so un-enjoyable for both of us. I’ve been looking to get off birth control (it makes me sick at night and I hate adding hormones into my body that I don’t feel are necessary) and this just solidified it for me. At the risk of sounding totally inappropriate, what do you think of “pulling out”? I know that in the Bible it does say it’s a sin to spill your seed to the earth. Now that you’ve got me thinking this kind of seems like the same thing as the pill to me. I would love to hear your thoughts. I would also love to see a blog post about Natural Family Planning because you’ve got me intrigued!

  11. Mommypotamus via FB says:

    Hi Tricia – I’d say the most important than is to eat a very nourishing diet rich in fermented foods that will help detoxify and restore the gut flora that the pill destroys. More on that at

  12. Tricia Lyons says:

    Wow! I know that is what happened to me! I have been convinced of it since 2001 when I suffered a miscarriage. I have spoken to many women who miscarry and they ALL told me that they were taking the pill before they got pregnant. I have been doing my own speculating for years and now, have more to back me up.
    So then the question is: What should a woman do who wants to conceive after taking “the pill”?
    I found a homeopathic Doctor who helped me cleanse my body through diet and exercise. I became pregnant not long after and can report that I have had 4 live births, and now 4 beautiful children! Praise God for leading me to natural Doctors and eventually midwives.

  13. Rachel Bagley via FB says:

    This was a brave post and I respect you bringing up an issue with such passionate supporters on both sides.

  14. Mommypotamus via FB says:

    Thank you, Rachel Bagley <3

  15. Maria Bowles via FB says:

    This is something I wonder about often as many women I know who took the pill, or other forms containing the hormone, have had miscarriages and sometimes miscarriages into the second trimester. It has happened way more often than my friends can handle. But my question is: Does it happen because they were on the pill or another similar form? If the pill causes the “soil” of the uterus to be thin and a hard place for seeds to grow, then the few that actually do implant only make it half way to full term, thus why so many of my friends are having second term miscarriages. But also when I see plants that are growing in hard thin soil, they are never very large plants and always look weak. Am I right to make this sort of conclusion about my friends who have previously been on the pill for so many years and then try to conceive?

  16. Justine Sterling via FB says:

    Thank you for posting this; I see that it’s quite old, so I might not have ever gotten around to reading it! Honestly, the title was click-bait for me. Putting “abortion” and “birth control” in the same sentence was jarring; I’m very much pro-choice and pro-contraceptives! *ducks for cover* ๐Ÿ˜‰ Anyway, though I’ve always felt weird about hormonal birth control (I find it unnatural) I admit that my knowledge of it is limited because I’ve never used or needed it myself. I would be interested to see more studies about this third mechanism. I’m actually shocked that more people have not brought this up during pro-life debates or pressured the FDA for more information. I am tolerant of everybody’s opinions and beliefs (as long that it doesn’t interfere with a woman’s legal right to choose), so I can certainly see how devastating this could be for people who are pro-life and believe that conception happens when sperm meets egg. They deserve to know the truth about *everything* hormonal birth control does to their bodies in order to make the best decision according to their lifestyles and personal beliefs. This feels a lot like they’re being cheated out of the facts. The bottom line is that we can’t rely on our doctors for *all* the facts. :-( Thanks again, I will be passing this along to interested parties. x

  17. J C says:

    No hate mail here! You and I seem to have different views about birth control from a social/cultural/religous standpoint, BUT I think you did a commendable thing here. My experience with birth control pills was good for a few years while I was not having sex. They were prescribed to me for my periods and I wasn’t having sex, so no “abortion” there. However, when I grew up, I learned about how the pill works — actually learned how it worked, no sugar coating there — yet I still decided to take it. I am pro-choice and I don’t regret my decision to take the pill. However, I do believe that everyone should have informed consent about the things they put into their bodies. I beleive that many women are not taught to ask the right questions of their doctors (not just in this situation, but in many situations). We are socialized to believe that doctors know more about our bodies than we do. Luckily, we are seeing a resurgence of women advocating for themselves. Midwives, doulas, sisters, and teacher are encouraging women to listen to their bodies.
    I’ve seen questions on here about “could my friend have suffered because of this?” or similar thoughts. The bottom line is that we can’t know. I have had my fair share of medical problems, but I can’t attribute them all to the pill. I think some were caused by the pill, but I can’t be certain. We can only look forward. I invite your readers to share the information they’ve learned here with others in their community. Every woman should be taught to advocate for herself and the women in her community. We need greater transparency in our health care and sex education. Regardless of our political/social/religious beliefs, we agree on one thing: educating yourself about your body is something that is of dire importance. I believe your blog encourages women to empower themselves in many ways. Good post.

    • Heather says:

      Love love LOVE this comment, JC! Nothing worries me more than when too many people agree with me – makes me think reasonable people who hold different viewpoints have decided I’m not reasonable enough to have a discussion with. So glad you’re here and that you found this article useful even though you we see a few things differently.

  18. Monica says:

    My friend said that this is not true of all bcp. She said she researched and found ones that would not abort a fertilized fetus. I know there are different hormone combinations, and didn’t know if that would be what she was referring to? She doesn’t take them anyway, but I was just curious if you had come across this in your research?

    • Heather says:

      I have not but would love to know of some if they are available! I personally wouldn’t take them because I have other concerns (damage to gut flora, hormonal issues, etc) but it would be helpful information to have.

  19. Gwen Belanger via FB says:

    Absurd to me that this would make a difference. While I am pro life (Meaning pro nurturing, pro education, pro quality of life) many people are simply pro birth. If you’re on contraception, you’ve made the choice already and children who might otherwise suffer neglect are spared. If this three part process makes a difference for you, I’m glad that you know. I simply reserve my right to say once the choice is made it’s made. I wish more people would become pro lifers rather than just pro birthers. Children in the world deserve more in millions of situations.

    • Grieving Mother says:

      My mom placed me on BC when I was 15 to help regulate my menstrual cycles and decrease the severity of my cramps. I knew nothin except it would help me feel better. To say “by taking contraventions, I’ve already made my choice” is ludicrous. Had I known the replications of taking the pill, I NEVER would’ve agreed to it.
      I got off the pill the night before my wedding. We conceived during our honeymoon and lost the baby at 12 weeks. I blame BC.

  20. Mommypotamus via FB says:

    Maria Bowles – I have not really looked into that so I can’t really say. There are so many things that could play a factor. So sorry for your friends :(

  21. Mommypotamus via FB says:

    Justine Sterling – I am really late in replying so I hope you see this! Thank you SO MUCH for your comment! Nothing worries me more than when everything agrees with everything I write – makes me think reasonable people who happen to disagree on this point or that have decided I’m not reasonable enough to have a discussion with. So glad you’re here!

  22. Sara Elizabeth via FB says:

    Great article thanks for being honest and bold.maria,,i have never used any form of bc and had a16 wk loss and many friends who also never did and had second trimester losses.

  23. Rebecca says:

    Fantastic post! Good for me to hear again. I wish more people would hear this!!!

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  25. RG says:

    I am not coming from a religious perspective. I appreciate this post for revealing information about the pill. The pill concerns me from a health perspective. I am grateful many of you have shared your experiences regarding Fertility Awareness/NFP. Fertility awareness, combined with withdrawal and barriers during the fertile times, have worked 100% for me.

  26. Ayshea says:

    Good post. There are those that don’t even think to find out how it works. I was also surprised when I discovered how it works. Once I found out I decided that when I get married there will be no more taking the pill. I currently take the pill for regulation reasons. I also have to be careful which pill ‘brand’ I take or I become overly & easily agitated. I also wonder what effect, if any, it might have on my ability to have children in the future if I do get married someday (I’m 34, but it’s still possible despite my family thinking it will never happen ๐Ÿ˜‰ ). Mostly I’m worried that when I stop taking it my cycle will go back to the way it was before. However, that is the price I may have to pay, cuz I will not risk aborting a baby.

  27. Pauline says:

    Thanks for sharing this post. my hubby was doing research at Lake Winnipeg in Manitoba. Some of his colleagues were doing research on the fish that lived in that huge lake. What they found was fish with both female and male organs. Fish that once were male, were now both. you see, it doesn’t
    only effect us when we take the pill. We pee it and when it leaves our bodies, then all those hormones get into the water systems and it effects the fish. it is changing the lives that are trying ti survive is in the waters and lakes. I think that we are so selfish, people don’t even think of the consequences. Whatever works best for them.. Yah, right!

  28. Carey says:

    Heather, Thank you for being willing to put yourself out there and be a barer of the truth!!! I know that sick feeling. It’s so hard when your physical being fights what you know in your heart is right. It’s such a difficult task in the world we live in, to say something out loud because you love enough to be willing to be hated for it. But if we REALLY do love people then we have to be willing to put ourselves out there and tell them the uncomfortable, unselfish truth.

  29. Andrea says:

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  31. Alis says:

    I am curious as to why the term abortion is used here and not miscarriage. Is it because a natural termination is a miscarriage and what you describe is termination brought about by interference (with the Pill)?

    • Vanessa says:

      Hi Alis, I know your question was from a while back, but I copied and pasted a quick summary of the terminology:

      “Any miscarriage is an abortion, but not every abortion is a miscarriage. Certainly an induced abortion is not a miscarriage.”

      If I’m not mistaken, the term “abortion” was used in previous years, before the more increasing convenience of having one surgically performed, to refer to when the body miscarries a fetus. The body, in this sense, “aborts” the pregnancy of itself. Obviously, we live in a society where the term is now used more commonly to refer to a premeditated abortion – that is, one which was decided upon – whether for birth control reasons or health risk to the baby or the mother.

      Technically, there’s always some kind of interference, whether the abortion is natural or induced. I think Heather is just using the correct terminology – even doctors today use the term when referring to miscarriages. I’m supposing the word “miscarry” is a lot more sensitive to a mother who has lost her child this way and is also accurate, since the “mis-” prefix usually implies unintention (think of words like “to misinterpret,” “to misunderstand,” “to mistake,” etc.)

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  32. Katie says:

    I just came across the post and am very pleased to see it. The Lord first began to speak to me about this in the months before I got married. I had started taking the Pill but didn’t feel right about it, so I asked Him. He led me to Genesis 2 and Malachi 2 and showed me His heart for children and family and how opposite the world’s perspective is. In Genesis 2, the first command God gave Adam and Eve is to be fruitful and multiply. Meaning that not only does He condone baby-making, but He likes it! In Malachi 2, He tells us that He “seeks Godly offspring.” I realized that He LOVES children, and this is why the enemy tries so hard to extinguish them before they’re even born.

    So I started doing the research on the Pill, read the fine print, and discovered the same thing you did. I was horrified and knew immediately I could never take it again. I flushed them all down the toilet and committed to trusting the Lord with my fertility, and accepting that the possibility having children was a part of the “package” I was getting when I got married. Well, we got married and attempted NFP as barrier methods were just totally not appealing. We were not good at it. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Our baby boy was conceived just a month and a half after our wedding. Totally inconvenient for me since I was a virgin up until my wedding day and wanted to just “have some time with my husband” before having kids. (This was my biggest reason for wanting to be on the Pill). Of course, our son has been the most amazing blessing. Well, epic NFP fail #2 happened when he was 6 months old, and I became pregnant with our baby girl, who is now a month old.

    That means I am raising 2 babies under the age of 2…something I never saw myself doing 2 years ago! But because I gave my heart to the Lord and allowed Him to change it, I saw how much selfishness was at the root of my reasons for wanting to “control” things. Our society sees children as a burden because individuality, independence, and self-will are our most prized values. God sees them as a blessing because He created them and his children (including you and me!) are His most prized possessions. But it takes a great deal of selflessness to raise them. I’m thankful the Lord has revealed this to me and that He is making my heart more like His. “Let the little children come to me…” My children are the most incredible gifts I have been given, even though they have come at great cost to my personal will and convenience. I pray more and more believers will come to this understanding. We should be the biggest advocates for children that there are, because God is.

  33. Melana Bucher says:

    I’m glad I read this. I actually just got home from my gyno and I told her I wanted to stop taking my birth control with all I have read about it. I don’t want to put anymore chemicals in my body. The thing is though, I have dysmenorrhea. Once I got put on birth control, my horrible symptoms (that put me in the hospital a few times) went away. Now I am scared that if I go off the birth control I will wind up in the emergency room again for extreme pain. I want to be off the birth control though! Any suggestions?

    • Heather says:

      Hi Melana, if it were me I’d consider seeing a naturopath to explore ways for balancing hormones :)

      • Melana says:

        I have never thought of this but that would be smart! Thanks for the suggestion. BTW, love your blog, I tell everyone about it!

        • Claire says:

          This is months (nearly a year!) after you posted but I just wanted to share what helped me in a very similar situation. I have been on/off hormonal birth control since I was about 13 because of dysmenorrhea. Finally about 2 years ago, I went off of it for good.

          For the past 2 years, I had greatly reduced (almost eliminated!!) my symptoms with a combination of acupuncture and herbs. This combination, along with other life style changes, has transformed my life! I wish you all the luck in dealing with these challenges!

  34. Marlena says:

    I am really glad you posted this, it confirmed the gut feeling I have had ever since “birth control” became part of my vocabulary. I have always been super uncomfortable with the idea of taking birth control and went back and forth in my head about it for years. I was always OK with it immediately after doing research or talking to my OB but then once I let my heart “think” about it I knew it was not for me. For that matter, I feel the same way about any non-barrier or natural planning methods. I’m just not comfortable change my body chemistry with artificial hormones or spermicidal chemicals. Even in the case of copper IUD’s, the material itself may not be synthetic but it still changes your chemistry. I really believe that my body is meant to be the way it is, my job is to nourish and love it and make sure all of its parts function. If I don’t want to get pregnant, I will work *with* my body to try and make sure that doesn’t happen, not *against* it.

    Now, I just hope that the Gardasil vaccine I took when I was a naive teenager doesn’t have any ill-effects when I do want to have a baby. Ugh!

  35. Emily M says:

    Heather, thank you for going out on a limb and sharing this. I’m glad to know I’m not the only mom who uses NFP. We all may have different reasons for choosing NFP, but there is no doubt we’re outside the mainstreammainstream when it comes to our choices regarding our fertility :) Keep up the good work and God bless you.

  36. Jessica says:

    I had no idea..
    I specifically came to your blog today because I figured you probably used some form of natural family planning. I discovered your blog a few months ago when I started my family on the Paleo Path.
    I am so totally shocked. I have been on the birth control pill for 17ish years (except for the time I was pregnant with my first). I’ve never had any side effects that I know of from the pill so that’s what I was using. I wanted to see what else was out there since my prescription ran out. I just can’t believe I didn’t know this. I research everything, now. But I guess I didn’t at 17 when I started the pill. Thank-you for this information, I definitely won’t be renewing that prescription.

  37. Tamara says:

    I’ve read this post several times and the first time I read it, I found a link to another post about pro life and pro choice. Now, I can’t find it. I am pro-life, but I found that post illuminating and very educational. Did you take it down, or am I just crazy?

    • Heather says:

      I did recently because a lot of my readers were getting confused and thinking I wrote it. It was for a blogging contest which ended a few years ago :)

  38. Vanessa says:

    Came across your blog looking for the coconut soap recipe, and just decided to read the about section – two-twos, I’m here. Thank you sooo much for this information, Heather. Good analogies, quotes and references. I thought you tackled the subject very well, with the intention only of raising awareness so that people have as much information as possible to make educated choices concerning their bodies and families. Though you admitted you were hesitant to post something on such a controversial topic, I’m gratful you did.

    I have always thought I wouldn’t take the pill as I personally don’t believe consuming those chemicals are good for our bodies, interfering with natural processes reproductively as well as generally. I also knew it would be inconvenient at times, but worth it. It was simply a conviction. But I’d previously never given much thought to the science of it all. I had NO idea about the third mechanism and was so shocked after reading. The thing is, there are so many people unaware of this! And also, as a previous commenter stated, I find it quite odd as to why most pro-lifers (hate that term too) and those advocating it haven’t found this information to use it as part of their argument. Not that I’m big on the arguing.

    It’s so unfortunate how uneducated people are becoming, especially my generation and the younger teens, because this one “miracle”-contraceptive (be it in the form of pill, patch, whatever) has come along and is all that is shoved down their throats. It, and the condom, are presented as the main ways to avoid pregnancy, but the side effects or the ways these contraceptives work, especially the former, are only presented partially. Personally, I think natural family planning combined with full-term breastfeeding (another reason I’m already a fan) are great at “controlling” birth rate (though who really is in “control” – what He says goes), while also proving benefitial for all members of the family. I’m not saying everybody has to take these routes – everybody should do what seems right to them – it just would be nice for the information to be more readily available. (I already have 101 reasons why it isn’t.)

    Anyway, I will be sharing this with people. So glad I found this – I would definitely want to know! I know the majority of people won’t… but mehh, that’s the way of the world. Also gonna have a rummage through the rest of the stuff you’ve posted – really useful and I like the way you write!

    Thanks a bunch,

  39. Lindsay H. says:

    Thank you for this. I am pro-life but I also care about getting info out to women. Aside from what the pill actually does (which most women aren’t aware of) I also feel it’s so important to consider how it affects our bodies. It basically stops an entire organ system in our body from working the way it was made to. And I have many friends who have been greatly affected by this later in life when they want to get off the pill…not to mention many were put on birth control as young girls to help symptoms of a health issue that really should have been looked into further. But now they still may have that condition on top of all the hormones and chemicals that their bodies were subject to through the pill. Obviously I could go on but it makes me sad that women are led astray. And for a country who is continually more worried about the food we put in our bodies I find it strange that we don’t think twice about birth control. So thank you for sharing the info. Women do want to know these things. So many of my friends have made a conscious decision to get off the pill and work on getting their bodies back to their natural state. It’s awesome! I also read your letter of regret concerning this blogpost. I admire your desire to instill more love into what you may feel are opinion pieces. It’s so important to remember to love when we talk about these issues or try to help someone. I will say I felt that you really kept on track of sharing info vs cramming your point of view down people’s throats. So don’t be too hard on yourself. And if some women are still angry it may just be because it’s hard stuff to hear and at least you know you have planted a seed of truth. I think they’ll come around (;

    • Haleigh says:

      That was one of the reasons my husband and I decided for me to go off the pill. I had headaches all the time, which never used to be a problem for me, was always nauseous and had gained at least 25 pounds since starting on the pill. Needless to say, after we found out what the pill was really doing it was a no brainer.

  40. Haleigh says:

    I wish I had read this sooner. When my husband and I first started going over birth control options before we got married, we read an article stating that all hormonal birth control (hbc) is abortive. We were set on not using hbc, but then he talked to a friend of his who was in pharmacy school who said the article we read was written by some crackpot. My husband researched some more to find that that specific source was iffy. So we made the decision to use the pill. I was careful to choose and made sure my doctor knew where I stood on abortion. Well my mom came up to me the other day almost in tears saying she had just learned that ALL hbc is abortive. She said she was sorry for misleading me (to which I told her none of this was her fault. We simply stopped researching). Well, after that I started researching and brought my sources to my husband, also finding that the two pills my gyno had prescribed me were a abortive too. He was hesitant at first, but after reading what I had found and searching more in depth himself, he found the info to be true. We are now learning how to use the NFP and FA methods.
    Thank you for this info.

  41. elizabth says:

    NFP, while difficult in the beginning, is amazing once you truly see the beauty of the body and how it is made. Watching for the signs and being able to decide together on the possibility of creating life is crazy and beautiful. We have also used it successfully and it is a blessing. Great post!

  42. jamie says:

    Hi Heather

    Just wondering what the natural family planning method is that your refering to. Is it in reference to natural birth control methods? Ever since working developing generic contraceptives ive been pretty anti them just knowing how hazardous they are to work with (They are in the highest drug hazard catagory btw). Personally I was thinking condoms would be the best. Are there other alternatives? I havent really looked into it properly yet.

    • Heather says:

      Hi Jamie, I took a course called “Natural Family Planning” from a local catholic church. They offer it to the community, even for non-catholics like me. It was what I knew about at the time, however, I have since learned of a similar method called the Fertility Awareness Method. You might check it out!

  43. nina says:

    I’ve been on birth control for a few months now and I was very reluctant to go on it. But to be quite honest, as a pro-choice atheist, the abortion thing was the least of my concerns. I was one of the few who knew about this before I started it but still decided to do it. I’m 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and because of my natural lifestyle and fear of putting chemicals in my body I was reluctant to even ask about it. I used a mix of condoms and pull out method which was obviously successful but it made sex uncomfortable or restricted and I was unable to orgasm due to this. I tried natural family planning for a while but quickly abandoned it because my irrgeularity made it impossible to track anything. The days before my very irregular periods were plauged with fear, I constantly worried I was pregnant and when I finally got them they were filled with terribly painful cramps and back pain (though I found that natural labor pain management techniques work well for heavy cramps too!). Due to my constant paranoia and severe pain and irregularly when it came to my cycles I chose to go on it. The chemicals still bother me and I’m afraid they may cause health concerns later but right now a can’t afford to get pregnant or get an abortion. Since I’ve started I now can finally make love without paranoia and can orgasm due to increased comfort. While my periods are still not regular they are lighter and my cramps diminished. I plan to go off of it as soon as I’m married and am not sure if I endorse it, but I wanted to give an honest review of my experience from a crunchy POV.

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