Hey there! Daddypotamus here. Today is a VERY special day. Today is the day my wife, Heather, was born. What do you give a woman like Heather? This year, as part of her gift, I told her to take the day off and offered to publish a post in her stead. Amazingly, she agreed.
Here’s to Heather and a very much deserved day of rest!
5 Things You Should Know About Mommypotamus
I want to take a little time to share some insights that might help you appreciate the woman behind the potamus.
1. Heather sacrifices many personal comforts and luxuries for her babies
I cannot possibly exaggerate this point. I’ve seen Heather lay aside things most people won’t. The hours and days and weeks and months of research… Giving up vacations to spend our savings on experimental (but non-toxic) health treatments. The maddening sleep deprivation for EIGHTEEN MONTHS as she co-slept with our beautiful baby girl and her undiagnosed tongue tie. Her lack of girlie-girl pampering in order to ensure her children get real food with live cultures and healthy bacteria.
Everyone invests their time and money into something. It would have been so easy for Heather to feel overwhelmed by the uncertainty she felt at the onset of researching each and every health concern. She could have thrown in the towel. But she knew instinctively in her gut (pun intended) that there was more to our health than what the major health organizations were teaching. She set herself on a journey of discovery that many of you eventually benefitted from.
Heather deserves to be honored. There are many nice things she’s sacrificed for the sake of laying this solid foundation. I firmly believe that our children will have a remarkable advantage because their minds and bodies are unencumbered by so many of the pollutants that have infiltrated 21st century American life.
2. Heather has been my life support as I’ve become more functional
Unlike our kids, I’ve had my share of toxic bumps along the way. I was diagnosed with ADD and Bipolar Disorder my senior year of college, and came to terms for the first time with the reality that my brain hadn’t functioned optimally in many years.
She managed our finances and handled the bills for several years when it was all I could do to show up for work every day. She researched health solutions to my functionality problems, handled the finances, shopped for groceries, cooked every meal, washed every dish, cleaned the house, and worked a full-time job so that we could have a better life. She believed some foundational truths about food that I wasn’t able or willing to accept, and so she took upon herself the burden of searching out the ancient truths that would help her get her husband back.
I am in her debt. Every improvement to my health in my entire life is in some way connected to her research, encouragement, input, or incessant nagging. =)
Oh, and just to give that statement context, I became med-free 5+ years ago and continue to improve in mental clarity and focus each year. (Note from Mommypotamus: Daniel is no longer bipolar in any way, yay!)
3. Heather delights in our children every single day.
I notice that look at some point throughout each and every day. She savors a new word Micah has just suddenly learned how to say. She delights in Katie’s pure fascination with princesses in search of their true love. Through all the pains and trials and difficulties, Heather is always looking for an opportunity to delight in each of her children. This fuels the flame of affection and imparts a sense of value to each child as they see how Mama glows when she looks at them.
4. Heather teaches our children to be respectful and tolerant of other people’s lifestyle choices.
When Katie turns to me and asks, “Daddy, why don’t we eat candy?” I tell her straight up that most candy is made of toxic and processed materials. This, in turn, gets repeated by her directly to people. Ever hear your child tell someone else that the food they’re eating is toxic? It never sounds anything but completely judgmental.
Heather, on the other hand, uses more kind and gracious language in her explanations about types of “food” that are processed or unhealthy. She feels more strongly about the benefits of real food than I do (obviously!), but she never loses sight of the fact that regardless of what we eat, we are still all just people.
And honestly, it just doesn’t always occur to me that my answers to their questions will directly affect their interactions with others. I’m very grateful Heather has taken this approach both with our children and with the occasional negative blog comments she receives on her posts. It’s always easier to receive from someone who loves you than one who condemns you.
5. Heather helps a lot of people and makes a real difference in the world.
I don’t know how she does it. I don’t think some of her readers understand how many dozens of questions she gets each day. When you take into consideration that she cooks every meal from scratch, she takes care of the kids, she spends hours researching and writing, and then she tries to respond to dozens of emails and Facebook messages… it’s amazing that she even tries to respond.
There are never enough hours in the day to answer each and every question that comes across… Still, Heather is making a significant impact on the world by helping transform the quality of people’s lives. There are hundreds of people, and I’m being conservative, who have experienced significant lifestyle improvements as a result of the well-researched information Heather has provided. When it comes to making an impact and being real Change in the world, Heather is fulfilling that mission every day.
If Heather has touched your life in some small (or great) way , please share a quick story below.
Happy birthday, Babe. May this year unfold to reveal a host of dreams unexpectedly coming true.