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Happy Birthday, Wifeypotamus!

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Hey there! Daddypotamus here. Today is a VERY special day. Today is the day my wife, Heather, was born. What do you give a woman like Heather? This year, as part of her gift, I told her to take the day off and offered to publish a post in her stead. Amazingly, she agreed.

Here’s to Heather and a very much deserved day of rest!

5 Things You Should Know About Mommypotamus

I want to take a little time to share some insights that might help you appreciate the woman behind the potamus.

1. Heather sacrifices many personal comforts and luxuries for her babies

I cannot possibly exaggerate this point. I’ve seen Heather lay aside things most people won’t. The hours and days and weeks and months of research… Giving up vacations to spend our savings on experimental (but non-toxic) health treatments. The maddening sleep deprivation for EIGHTEEN MONTHS as she co-slept with our beautiful baby girl and her undiagnosed tongue tie. Her lack of girlie-girl pampering in order to ensure her children get real food with live cultures and healthy bacteria.

Everyone invests their time and money into something. It would have been so easy for Heather to feel overwhelmed by the uncertainty she felt at the onset of researching each and every health concern. She could have thrown in the towel. But she knew instinctively in her gut (pun intended) that there was more to our health than what the major health organizations were teaching. She set herself on a journey of discovery that many of you eventually benefitted from.

Heather deserves to be honored. There are many nice things she’s sacrificed for the sake of laying this solid foundation. I firmly believe that our children will have a remarkable advantage because their minds and bodies are unencumbered by so many of the pollutants that have infiltrated 21st century American life.

2. Heather has been my life support as I’ve become more functional

Unlike our kids, I’ve had my share of toxic bumps along the way. I was diagnosed with ADD and Bipolar Disorder my senior year of college, and came to terms for the first time with the reality that my brain hadn’t functioned optimally in many years.

She managed our finances and handled the bills for several years when it was all I could do to show up for work every day. She researched health solutions to my functionality problems, handled the finances, shopped for groceries, cooked every meal, washed every dish, cleaned the house, and worked a full-time job so that we could have a better life. She believed some foundational truths about food that I wasn’t able or willing to accept, and so she took upon herself the burden of searching out the ancient truths that would help her get her husband back.

I am in her debt. Every improvement to my health in my entire life is in some way connected to her research, encouragement, input, or incessant nagging. =)

Oh, and just to give that statement context, I became med-free 5+ years ago and continue to improve in mental clarity and focus each year. (Note from Mommypotamus: Daniel is no longer bipolar in any way, yay!)

3. Heather delights in our children every single day.

I notice that look at some point throughout each and every day. She savors a new word Micah has just suddenly learned how to say. She delights in Katie’s pure fascination with princesses in search of their true love. Through all the pains and trials and difficulties, Heather is always looking for an opportunity to delight in each of her children. This fuels the flame of affection and imparts a sense of value to each child as they see how Mama glows when she looks at them.

4. Heather teaches our children to be respectful and tolerant of other people’s lifestyle choices.

When Katie turns to me and asks, “Daddy, why don’t we eat candy?” I tell her straight up that most candy is made of toxic and processed materials. This, in turn, gets repeated by her directly to people. Ever hear your child tell someone else that the food they’re eating is toxic? It never sounds anything but completely judgmental.

Heather, on the other hand, uses more kind and gracious language in her explanations about types of “food” that are processed or unhealthy. She feels more strongly about the benefits of real food than I do (obviously!), but  she never loses sight of the fact that regardless of what we eat, we are still all just people.

And honestly, it just doesn’t always occur to me that my answers to their questions will directly affect their interactions with others. I’m very grateful Heather has taken this approach both with our children and with the occasional negative blog comments she receives on her posts. It’s always easier to receive from someone who loves you than one who condemns you.

5. Heather helps a lot of people and makes a real difference in the world.

I don’t know how she does it. I don’t think some of her readers understand how many dozens of questions she gets each day. When you take into consideration that she cooks every meal from scratch, she takes care of the kids, she spends hours researching and writing, and then she tries to respond to dozens of emails and Facebook messages… it’s amazing that she even tries to respond.

There are never enough hours in the day to answer each and every question that comes across… Still, Heather is making a significant impact on the world by helping transform the quality of people’s lives. There are hundreds of people, and I’m being conservative, who have experienced significant lifestyle improvements as a result of the well-researched information Heather has provided. When it comes to making an impact and being real Change in the world, Heather is fulfilling that mission every day.


If Heather has touched your life in some small (or great) way , please share a quick story below.

Happy birthday, Babe. May this year unfold to reveal a host of dreams unexpectedly coming true.

– Daddypotamus





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129 Responses to Happy Birthday, Wifeypotamus!

  1. Mommypotamus via FB says:

    Thank you! <3

  2. Jenn P. says:

    Happy Birthday Heather! That was the sweetest thing I’ve ever read!

    • Heather says:

      Thank you, Jenn! I am very grateful to have a husband who chooses to see the best in me without avoiding my weaknesses. He has helped me grow so much and I love him!

  3. Elise says:

    There are so many examples of how you have been a help and encouragement to me Heather! Helping us figure out how to drink fluoride free water, writing articles on subjects that are hard to broach with my modern american diet friends so that i can take the wussy way out and just share your post;), recipes, money saving tips, your example of thoughtful & deliberate decision making in your parenting and life choices…. gosh it just goes on! I SO appreciate the care you take in trying to answer personal questions on FB as well- i have PLENTY of them, and you are always gracious and helpful. Happy Birthday!! What an exciting legacy you are building- your kids will grow up with a deep understanding of nourishing and life giving foods! Praise the LORD! What better gift?

    • Heather says:

      Thank you, Elise! For the record, I take the wussy way out too :) I love writing this blog because people who are interested can pop over and read if they want to, but on the other hand they can just skip! In real life you will very rarely catch me talking about these subjects unless it’s something the other person brought up or expressed an interest in, because in my experience the most important part of making healthier decisions is wanting to :)

  4. Kim says:

    I am just so happy to have found this blog! I have been “into” this sort of thing for years but Heather has found and written about and researched even more than I knew of. My kids are older (my baby is 5) but I am still learning from another parent trying to keep their kids healthy today. Thanks Heather and Happy Birthday! You’re pretty awesome!

  5. Maria Castro via FB says:

    Happy Birthday Mommypotamus, have a blessed one 😀

  6. Ruth Ann says:

    Happy Birthday, Heather! What an awesome post, Daniel! I only wish that I had gotten to know you while you lived in TX! We have begun our own health journey this year and you are such an inspiration! I have loved reading your blog and so appreciate your research and thoroughness on your topics. Hope you had a blessed day!

  7. Karine says:

    Happy Birthday Mommypotamus! I love your blog. You truly inspire me. Thanks for all you do!

  8. Sloane says:

    Happy Belated Birthday Heather! I friend forwarded me your blog post on SIDS and vaccines (she knows I’ve been pretty much obsessed with researching vaccines since I found out I was pregnant 13 weeks ago) and I spent the rest of the afternoon devouring the rest of your site. I’ve been having a tough time with my pregnancy as I was diagnosed with ADD when I was 7 and have been on medication for it pretty much ever since. I have a serious lack of motivation, feel sluggish all the time, and am realizing just how dependent I was on those meds ever since I got off of them! After reading that your husband is med free for 5+ years I’m really curious as to what has helped him…I’m thinking you’ve probably already written about it and I’ve just missed it on the site. I don’t want to get back on meds after breastfeeding so I am looking for alternative ways to help me out in the ADD department.

    Aside from all of that, I’m really excited to have found your blog and look forward to the many posts ahead to help me prepare for my little one and to continue living a healthier lifestyle! Thanks for all that you do!

    • Heather says:

      Congrats on your pregnancy, Sloane! I haven’t really written much on ADD, but I can share a couple of the tools we’ve found most helpful. One thing was neurobiofeedback, which helped re-train his brain to focus better. We went to The Sams Center in Dallas – they may be able to help you find someone in your area if you’re interested. Another thing we did was clean up his diet and focus on healing his adrenals, which were shot by excessive (prescribed) stimulant use. We did this mostly by piecing research together ourselves, but since that time the GAPS protocol has been introduced to make things easier. More info on that at

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    […] Mommypotamus is a blog I have recently discovered and started to follow. Heather is the author, and she is looking to find the healthiest foods/lifestyle for herself and her family to follow. Yesterday just happened to be her birthday, and instead of Heather posting, her husband (Daddypotamus) published a beautiful birthday post in her stead. Read his birthday wishes here. […]

  10. Holly @ Whole Sweet Home says:

    Happy belated birthday, Heather! Thank you for all that you do to impact the lives of so many!

  11. Jennifer K says:

    Hope you had a great birthday! I found your blog through Dianthe Hall’s blog. Your blog has made such an impact on our family. I decided to attempt an unmedicated vbac with a midwife which was in part due to the inspiring birth stories on your blog(it was successful and amazing). I knew who to turn to when my 10 day old was diagnosed with a tongue and lip tie. We have incorporated Bubbies into our diets and limit “toxic” foods. Most of all your blog has helped me to not feel so alone in the choices I make for my family. (my un-vaccinated, chiropractic going, probiotic eating, natural birthing, extended breast-feeding, co-sleeping, essential oil using little family).

    • Heather says:

      Jennifer, this makes me SO HAPPY to read! So funny how small the world is – I discovered Dianthe’s blog through Dr. Cindy Haggerton of Lifetime Family Wellness Center – do you happen to know her?

  12. Leah says:

    First and Foremost… Happy Belated Birthday! Heather is a truly unique lady who has blessed us with an enormous amount of information to give us a better life. Thank you so much Heather! I thought we already knew do much but you always seem to throw us a curve ball! I know I am very thankful for having found you!

  13. Amy says:

    Happy Belated Birthday! Thank you for all your research and your e-book. You have given me a new perspective on my 13 month old playing in the dirt and our family loves your Ultimate Liver Chilli.We will be making your marrow custard next..can’t wait!! Thanks :)

  14. Ashley Housley says:

    Happy belated birthday! I took an internet break this week so I’m just now seeing this post. I found mommypotaus while desperately googling around for what first food to feed babies instead of rice cereal… Rice cereal just seemed wrong to me, but our pediatrician kept insisting that babies need the iron supplement that rice cereal provides. Anyway, that initially led me to the blog and to purchasing the ebook- which gave me the courage to not use cereal at all (oh, and of course, months later when they tested it, my son’s iron levels were fine without supplementing iron at all…). So in addition to saving my infant child from being fed yucky baby cereal, I have since also learned my son is lip tied, thanks to another post on here. I really love that everything is well researched and reliable on this blog. If Heather says the deodorant works, the deodorant works. If Heather says you can’t taste the liver in the chili, you can’t taste the liver in the chili. We’re actually in Frankli, TN and I saw that y’all moved here recently, so I’m looking forward to hopefully meeting you one day! Thanks for all of your hard work mommypotaus!

  15. Natalie says:

    Heather, When I graduated from school a year ago as a Nutritional Consultant I had a lot of foundation knowledge. However, I still felt lost and searching as far as what it looked like to eat healthy. I stumbled upon your blog thru a Destiny in Bloom article. I am trying not to sound cheezy as I say this, but truly your blog has changed my life. What a relief and joy to find out what real food is, AND that it’s healthy and tastes good. I am especially happy to eat beef. I have learned so much from you and your fellow foodies that I am now enjoying passing it along on my own blog at My main focus is to help people see how food affects our physical, mental and emotional health, and have a few fun posts thrown in too. :) I love your work and all you have done for so many of us. Blessings on your birthday and always!

  16. Jennifer Trujillo says:

    HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY Heather!! Youve been a such a wonderful light to me! I love, love your posts … to say the least! I have been in the “road” to health and wellness for years however I have learned so, so much here! Thank you for answering my emails. I know now busy you much be and I just appreciate you so much!

    Hugs, j

  17. Sanja says:

    I’m little late but happy birthday from Croatia!

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  19. Shellie says:

    I’m a little late to the party :), but I wanted to say THANKS, Heather, for writing and sharing what you’ve discovered in your research and on your journey. We’re new to our journey to real foods, and your blog and e-book have been huge aids for me! I have a son (8) with severe food allergies and eczema, and another son (15 months) with gross motor and growth delay. He also has an upper lip tie (is that what it’s called?) that I would have NEVER realized if I hadn’t read about it on your blog! I’m reading “Cure Tooth Decay,” Nourishing Traditions,” and “Gut & Psychology Syndrome” now. And I just got my Dr. Christopher’s Herbal Tooth & Gum Powder today. Thanks so much, Heather, and happy belated birthday!

  20. Wendy Good says:

    I am late, but must say that your GAPS marshmallow recipe changed my life and the life of a close friend just when we needed it most! Thank you for researching and posting and encouraging. You are making a difference in the world.

  21. Rachel says:

    I can definitely attest that she tries to answer Facebook messages! I messaged her during my last pregnancy after reading something very informative and helpful in her book Nourished Baby. I let her know that I didn’t expect a response but she did respond and she continued the conversation and helped me figure out what to do about an issue. I was very surprised and thankful that she took the time to do so. What a wonderful lady :)
    Happy Birthday!!!

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  23. Travis says:

    So I got here through my girlfriend sending me this message:
    “Will you read this for me? There’s no one great thing in it, it just gives the general idea of what I want our life to be like.”
    Through Danial’s wonderful story of you and exploring the blog myself, she’s well on the way to be another mommypotamus(minus the children right now thank goodness!).
    I know it’s past the birthday, but if someone wrote what she told me about my life, I’d feel honored. Hope all is well. Thanks for keeping her inspired :)

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