Hey, cruncharoos, Daddypotamus here. With 4-6 weeks until Babypotamus makes his/her grand entrance, I’m starting to wonder how this one will be different. The mystery’s gone… I know what having a baby at home LOOKS like. And I’m starting to vividly remember the challenges of getting our Katie girl to sleep. Rookie mistakes and all. But man, getting her to sleep was brutal!
With Babypotamus, we know we’ll do some things differently. There will be no walking the baby to sleep! Mark it down. For the love of all things holy, DO NOT get your baby in the habit of depending on walking to sleep. I can’t think of a more tortuous night time ritual. At the time, we didn’t know any better. All we knew is that we wanted her to go to sleep, and carrying her while walking and patting her on the bottom and making shushing sounds was what worked first.
But by month #2 of re-walking her to sleep several times a night, we were both at our wit’s end. Heather was so sleep deprived she would smack herself into door frames from time to time. It barely seemed to register. PLEASE. NOT. AGAIN.
So, hopefully we will be wiser about which sleep rituals to go with, but now there is new territory: Co-sleeping as a family of four. Will the baby wake up Katie? Will Katie wake up the baby? Will any of us get a good night’s sleep? I’m not going to answer this one, but I’m optimistic.
Tandem nursing will definitely different experience for Heather, but I’m not sure what, if anything, I can do to help out in this department. I don’t know that this will be much of a problem… but I really DO feel sorry for parents of twins or triplets or more. I can only imagine what it must be like to have so many hungry mouths to feed.
Gigi has been a godsend in more than one area. But with a newborn, watching the kids just won’t be an option until the baby’s nursing schedule spans out a bit. And when does that even happen? I can’t remember. So while I don’t want to curse us, I’m guessing our date nights for the next few months will consist of sneaking off to the spare bedroom to watch a movie on the laptop – private enough to get some time alone but close enough for Heather to “be the boob.”
Even though the baby will be fine sleeping and nursing most of the time, making sure Katie has a life will be an ever-increasing priority. Trips to the park, shopping, playdates, etc. On some level, I think it’s everyone’s temptation to focus on the baby to the detriment of the older sibling(s). So our challenge will be loving on Katie so much that her heart is always full, no matter how much coddling and attention Babypotamus gets.
One of my favorite moments comes right after Katie has been corrected. She’s so quick to look at me again with admiration and love. She doesn’t feel ashamed or emotionally separated from me. So she and I are hugging and cuddling and tickling very shortly after. I know that comes from the amount of love she constantly receives from us. Her heart is full, and she knows she’s loved. So when we correct her, it’s never a question of whether she’s still loved or accepted. We’ve made it our goal to ALWAYS communicate those things. So it becomes a matter of making sure she still gets that attention. I’ve pretty much settled it in my heart that whenever I see the baby getting lots of attention, I will be holding and loving on Katie so she’s never stuck watching and wishing she could have what Babypotamus gets.
With one child, I can take Katie to Starbucks, the mall, the park, or the dog park for a while and give Mommy a much needed break. Giving breaks has become one of the ways we love on each other. But with a newborn, will I still be able to give her much of a break? I think it’s possible, but I could use your help.
The baby’s not here yet, and I have no idea how this all fleshes out in the real world. God is faithful to answer our earnest prayers. So I’m confident we can do this. But you have all been such an awesome community of friends that I thought I’d put the question to you. You know, in case I have a blindspot (which we all know, of course, I do not).
What did you find to be the biggest difference in handling baby #2? Or if you’re working on #2, what are you planning on doing differently? But most importantly, what did your husbands do to that was most meaningful and/or supportive during this transition time? Or what do you wish they had done?Read More »
I don’t eat a lot of seafood because I’m concerned about mercury and other contaminants. (We do buy Wild Alaskan Salmon once a year in bulk, though.) But. I. LOVE. Seafood. And every once in awhile I just can’t help myself.
There are relatively safe and environmentally sustainable choices out there, even in landlocked suburbia. Monterey Bay Aquarium has a Super Green List of recommendations on what’s healthy for us and our environment that I like to go by.
Last week when I broke down and asked the guy at Whole Foods if they had any caviar, he looked at me like I was a three-headed piranha. He told me caviar isn’t in season right now. I told him to tell the baby that.
No dice. So I went with option #2: scallops and chopped clams. While scallop and saffron soup is usually served in a delicate broth with all the veggies strained out, I couldn’t bring myself to do that. I mean, seriously, throw away veggies? After trying it with the herbs and veggies, I have to say those people are missing out! Here’s the recipe:
SKILL LEVEL: Beginner
Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection only to find out you’re totally different . . . and then discovered that you like them anyway? That’s what happened when I “met” Anni Daulter, author of Organically Raised: Conscious Cooking For Babies and Toddlers.
When Anni emailed me about the opportunity to review her book I was star-struck. Gywneth Paltrow, Gwen Stefani and Ricki Lake are just some of the big names that have given glowing reviews. Not that I am really into big name endorsements, but maybe I would be if they were for my book (that I haven’t written)!
When it arrived Katie tore open the package and together we pored over the vibrant pages. Warm colors, beautiful food and photos of little faces mixed in felt like an invitation to see cooking in a whole new light: To let love for those we are cooking for be our inspiration.
It was an invitation I wholeheartedly accepted.
Before I tried the recipes I read through each chapter to better understand Anni’s nutritional philosophy. She started off by gently introducing the idea that breastfeeding should remain the central focus up to at least a year, and then went further, saying:
The average age worldwide for weaning a baby from breast milk is between years 5 and 7. Mothers around the world choose to wean at different times; breastfeed your baby as long as both of you feel comfortable.
What an unexpected and welcome way to start a book on feeding babies! But then things got sticky. For example, if breastfeeding is not desired/possible, Anni recommends using DHA enriched formula. I disagree. DHA and ARA obtained from natural sources like a mother’s milk and/fish oil are vital to healthy brain growth, but the substances made in labs can be toxic. A recent report, Replacing Mother: Imitating Human Breastmilk in the Laboratory,
details research questioning the alleged benefits of adding “novel” omega-3 fatty acids, produced in laboratories and extracted from algae and fungus, into infant formulas. The additives raised health and safety red flags during preapproval testing while aggressive marketing campaigns by some infant formula manufacturers appear to have encouraged new mothers to give up nursing for the questionable infant products.
“When I worked in the hospital’s neonatal ward, the nurses all called it “the diarrhea formula”,” says Sam Heather Doak, LPN, IBCLC, from Marietta, Ohio. “We’ve seen infants, tiny little humans, with diarrhea that just wouldn’t stop after being given this formula.” For infants, virulent and long-term diarrhea is considered a serious and life-threatening medical episode. Source
I don’t want to blow one little statement out of proportion. My reason for even bringing it up is this: While I don’t agree with every aspect of her nutritional approach (more details below), one thing is sure: Anni knows flavors. She’s a culinary genius. Of the handful of recipes I selected to try with my family, two shot straight to the top of family favorites that we will be making again and again. So this is my disclaimer: If you buy (or win!) this book, please substitute ingredients and methods where you feel it is appropriate. If you’re interested in what adjustments I would make they are listed at the bottom of this post.
But rather than review the outcome of each recipe we tried, I’ve decided to share with you our absolute favorite. Hot weather, cold weather, rain, sun, or monsoon. It doesn’t matter. I will always love this soup!
This is one of those meals Daddypotamus couldn’t get enough of. In fact, he was eying the leftovers greedily while I typed this post. He’ll eat this one again and again, because it feels like comfort food! That’s what I’m talkin’ about!
Are you still reading? Fantastic, because now I get to tell you that Anni has generously agreed to give away not one but TWO Organically Raised cookbooks! The goal of the contest is to make new people aware of the Mommypotamus blog, so…
“Hi there! [Your Name] just introduced me to Mommypotamus!”
This Sunday, I’ll draw a name from the new people who have both liked and commented on the wall, and if your person is picked, you will BOTH win a copy of the cookbook!
For more information on Anni and her passion for food, check outwww.consciousfamilyliving.com and http://www.organicallyraisedcookbook.com.
Here are the ways I would adjust recipes to fit my nutritional philosophy:
[info_box]This contest is now closed. :)[/info_box]Read More »
Ahoy matey! This here is Blackbeard, Captain of the Splash Pad and Fearless Marauder of the Fruit Bin. Today the Captain is helping me finish up a baby/toddler cookbook review. As you can see, the kale-infused popsicles did NOT have to walk the plank! Check back soon for a giveaway!Read More »
If you read I Kissed Toothpaste Goodbye and couldn’t get the Toothsoap coupon code to work, here’s your second chance. I emailed the company and they sent me another coupon code. To get 40% off your order through August 8th, use the code FAMILY.Read More »
All you mom’s who have asked me “How do you have time for all those complicated recipes?” will be glad to know that I have finally seen the light. Cooking with one extremely helpful toddler is a breeze. Cooking with said toddler while eight months pregnant? Not so much.
With the thrilling but inevitably exhausting arrival of our newborn just ahead, I’ve been tweaking my kitchen techniques to save time/hassles AND testing new, no-fuss recipes that deliver nutritionally. I’ll be sharing new recipes soon, but let’s talk techniques today.
Anyone that has ever attempted a Nourishing Traditions lifestyle will probably tell you that soaking grains is inconvenient. It’s Saturday morning and you’re hit with the urge to make a huge pancake breakfast for your family? Too bad. Whims and cravings must provide 12 hours advance notice so that proper milling and grain soaking can be done.
Is it really worth the effort? When Katie at Kitchen Stewardship began hosting debates on the value of soaking grains it got me wondering. Sure, our family has noticed a dramatic improvement in the digestibility of our grains, nuts and beans since we began soaking them, but it appears there are even more benefits to sprouting them.
One study out of the University of Minnesota found that the nutrient density of sprouted wheat was in some instances hundreds of times higher than in whole wheat, specifically in vitamin C, folic acid, niacin and riboflavin (vitamin B2). (source) These studies have also demonstrated a significant increase in various enzymes, including amylase, protease and lipase. (source)
Impressive, huh? About a month ago I decided to give it a shot and the results surprised me.
One of the awesome but unintended consequences of making the switch is that life got MUCH EASIER. Here’s why: I used to soak my grains, nuts/seeds and beans in small batches, using one recipe for pancakes, another for tortillas, etc. Almost every single night before going to bed I had to think of what I would make the next day and get it ready.
Now, I sprout a huge batch of whatever I’ve got and then dehydrate it for later use. When I wake up on a Saturday morning craving pancakes I can easily mill the spelt/wheat/whatever into a ready-to-use, nutrient dense flour. No planning required!
Plus, (this is probably my favorite part), with my new Excalibur Dehydrator I can sprout 2-4 weeks worth of grains, nuts/seeds and beans in less time that it used to take to soak just a few recipes.
If you’re interested in learning more about sprouting check out this Dietary Seed Sprouting Guide. Or skip it and use this process to soak and dehydrate larger amounts of what you’re already using to build your well-stocked pantry.
Was that boring? I kind of think it was, but give it a try and I promise you’ll love me ; – ) Don’t forget to check back soon for some quick, yummy recipes!
I can’t sew, or knit, or crochet. The only creative endeavors that don’t completely wither under my care are food, words, and photography. Yes, food is a creative endeavor. At least it is in my house.
Today, in honor of my lack of crafty-type skills (and because I stayed up too late watching LOST with Daddypotamus. Don’t tell us what happens, please!), I have made something that required no skill whatsoever!
Happy Friday, everyone! It’s a good day.
If you feel the creative itch, you can make a free 30 second video slideshow at animoto.com ; – )Read More »
Yesterday’s post received more first-time visitors than ever before in Mommpotamus Land. You know what? In one way I felt relieved and in another way sad. Relieved because I was thinking to myself “It’s okay, they’ll probably never come back.” Sad because I knew that if they didn’t it would be because I failed to connect with them and communicate something that is vitally important. Even worse, it might drive away some blogging friends that I have truly come to care about. Women who are passionate about breastfeeding, attachment parenting, and real food, but who likely do not believe exactly as I do.
What’s vitally important to me? It’s not issues or advocacy, I’ll tell you that. Of course, I like writing about issues. Somewhere around the seventh grade I learned that if you think differently than the mainstream, keep your mouth shut or be ridiculed. I have never thought like the mainstream and have therefore spent the last two decades keeping my thoughts to myself.
To my surprise, my most popular posts come from the secret thoughts I have kept private for so long. They are the ones I am both proudest of and most ashamed. Proud because they are the ones I “dig deep” for. They reflect the oh-so-fringe parts of who I am, and when people graciously embrace that part of me it floors me. It’s humbling and exhilarating. There’s nothing quite like having dark parts brought to the light and loved.
But there is shame, too, because as I have revealed more and more of myself here something has begun to bother me. The deeper I dig the more incomplete I find I am. Yesterday I agonized over the one element that seemed missing from my post: Love.
I couldn’t find the words to express one thing to the many types of visitors — those who are on the pill, those who support abortion rights, those who have been on the pill and felt guilty while reading my post, those who didn’t, and many others — and that one thing is love. It seems too sappy, or too simple, just to tell you that no matter who you are or what you believe I care about you. But it’s true.
It’s going to take a lot of work (more than I really want to think about), but when it’s all said and done I want the causes and the soapboxes to fade into the background. When people come here, I want them to feel loved, supported, and understood.
I don’t know if it is just that I’m not a naturally warm person or what, but it is painfully obvious that I’m better with issues and ideas than with love. I am an incomplete person. This blog has shown me that in very uncomfortable, public ways. But if you’ll come back I’d like to stick with it, because it is only when I’m trying to reach you that I am willing to do the work on myself that really needs to be done anyway.Read More »