I’ve been feeling like I need to apologize to the cute little Real Food Media blogroll on my sidebar. Every morning when I open my laptop I hear it sputter with excitement.
“What are we going to talk about today?,” it chirps. “New pumpkin pie porridge recipe? How to make yogurt?” It waits expectantly to announce today’s topic.
But for the past month or so, I can tell my chipper little blogroll has been getting depressed. “Oh, another one about your uterus. Yay,” it drolls. Today, it stopped working altogether. Not just on my site, but everywhere.
I can take a hint. Baby fever has taken over my blog.
I’m sorry little blogroll. Please come back. This post is for you . . . and for moms who want to feed their families a yummy, healthy breakfast and sleep 20 extra minutes in the morning.
Whip up this delightful breakfast bar on Sunday afternoon and smile. You’re done with breakfast for the week. One pan easily makes enough to feed our family (three adults and one toddler) for at least the workweek. By then we’re usually ready for something new, like buttermilk pancakes, so it works out well.* How much easier can it be?
Oatmeal (nourishing and frugal), pastured eggs (packed with omega 3’s and protein), coconut oil (healthy saturated fat) and fruit are a wonderful way to start the day. Since my days are currently starting at 4am, I need some *wonderful* right about then.
Note: Don’t be afraid to play with this recipe. I’ve used fresh fruit and other combinations (like dried mango with almond extract) and it’s all been scrumptious.
Visit Jenny, my culinary hero, over at Nourished Kitchen for the recipe
* If you’d prefer more variety you can freeze half and serve it every other day while alternating with other meals
Smoothies are so versatile. They’re great for hiding your toddlers supplements or masking the taste of certain veggies, but you don’t need a reason like that to start incorporating them into your morning routine.
Smoothies are quick, nutritious, portable , and kids love them. Below is a real food version of the SP Cleanse Smoothie I created for Daddypotamus. If you’re interested in finding more ways to boost the nutritional value of your morning smoothie, check out this article at Passionate Homemaking.
* 1/2 cup peaches
* 3/4 cup mango
* 1/4 cup banana
* 1/4 cup kefir, raw cream or full-fat coconut milk
* Water until desired consistency is reached.
* 2-3 egg yolks
Some of your stomachs are probably already revolting at the idea, but greens are a fabulous breakfast. Plus, it’s a great way to get ahead on your veggie requirement for the day.
Quick Tip: Sautee with minced garlic in leftover pastured bacon grease or coconut oil. The healthy fats will help you absorb more of chard’s many antioxidants, vitamins and minerals.
To Prepare: Mince garlic and set aside. Place oil on medium heat. When oil is ready, add garlic and chard. Sautee until wilted, or about 5 minutes.
Optional: Serve with a side of scrambled eggs from pastured hens to add extra protein to this fabulous, nutrient dense breakfast.Read More »
This would be a good time to imagine me pulling a plastic photo protector out of my clunky virtual wallet. As I unfold it like a well-used accordion I won’t mind if you try to mask your boredom with a polite smile. “How long is this going to take???,” you might wonder. “What about the post on vaccines, water filters . . . Real Food For Busy Moms?”
Don’t worry, I’ll make it quick.
This is my firstborn. Without her, this blog would never have existed.
Things were a little tense with her after Micah was born, but after we established the three four cardinal rules of baby care (DON’T stick your finger down his throat, smack him in the face, poke him in the eye or pull off ANY of his appendages) life sweetened up a bit.
I’m still getting to know this little guy. He’s a mystery in so many ways. When Katie was born she reminded me so much of Daniel I wondered if every. single. gene. I’d contributed was recessive. This time, although I can’t say exactly why, I look at Micah and see . . . myself.
I love him more every day. To try to say it more eloquently would be a complete failure. I’ll leave that to the poets.
Wow, I can’t believe you actually read all the way to the end, but here you are. Thanks for stopping by to let me show you my loves.
If you’ve ever . . .
. . . you might beTHAT mom.
I have been THAT mom . . . this week in fact. My mom asked me to pick up our raw milk so I got the kids ready and couldn’t remember what I was supposed to do. We went to the park and fed the ducks instead. Faux pas #2 is me also . . . that was when Katie was a newborn. #3 is Kate C, because it’s nice to have company when admitting my flaws. #4 is Daddypotamus. Although he is definitely not THAT mom, he did actually work ALL DAY at the office with his shirt inside out after Micah was born.
If only it were that simple . . . and funny. Unfortunately, if you’ve ever been tired enough to do any of these things you know the ugly truth:
Having children makes you want to become a better version of yourself, but then sleep deprivation comes along and causes you to behave in ways worse than you thought you were capable of.
Okay, this could just be me. Despite my pie-in-the sky beliefs about the parent I was going to be prior to becoming one, good parenting doesn’t come naturally to me. Recently I reviewed one of my favorite books, The Parent You Want to Be. It’s about intentionally cultivating your parenting traits. I love this book because I need so much work as a parent. When I succeed at being attentive, patient, comforting and affirming with my children it’s not because that’s who I am.
It’s because my plan worked.
This series is all about my strategy to keep my sanity without letting Micah cry it out, so what better way to start than to review my past failures . . . er, learning experiences. This should be fun.
When Katie was born I had a plan: Co-sleep and nurse on demand. I’d heard co-sleeping moms get more sleep than their crib-loving counterparts, so I was sure the rest would fall together. As you can see in the picture above, it seemed like a recipe for bliss.
Ahem. Not even a year later I looked like this.
My road from point A to B is pretty straight forward. I woke with every sigh, every sniffle, so eager to meet her needs I actually WOKE HER UP trying to anticipate them. That’s right, people! The most important thing I have learned about babies since numero uno is that they make A LOT of noise in their sleep. They cry, whimper, laugh, snort and generally make all kinds of ruckus while they are zonked out. By responding too quickly I disrupted both of our sleep cycles without even realizing it.
PR/Marketing was my field of expertise in pre-kids life, so when I became a mommy I decided to be my own personal PR rep with Katie. As a rookie mom, I was insecure about my mothering abilities, so I created an ad campaign that went like this:
Baby, I love you SO MUCH. When you are sleepy I will NOT let you cry it out. Not only that, I am going to make a huge display of my efforts to help you fall asleep. You are going to have the most attentive parent ever, because I AM SUCH A GOOD MOM. You’re going to love me, too, when you get to know me.
My campaign went so well that in a short period of time I had completely convinced Katie that she needed an elaborate routine in order to fall asleep. A routine that centered around me. For awhile, I loved it. And then I didn’t.
At some point I realized my error, but by then my message was so well-ingrained we both believed she needed me to help her fall asleep. Things got pretty bad. I read The No Cry Sleep Solution and tried to implement it, but in the end I gave up and hoped she would start sleeping through the night on her own.
Ha ha ha.
Elizabeth Pantley knows a thing or two about babies and sleep . . . and the parents of babies that don’t sleep. She knows, for instance, that many of them will buy her No Cry Sleep Solution and then fail to execute the solution part.
That’s why she wrote The No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers (or at least, why I like to think she wrote it!) Newly pregnant and desperate for a few months of real sleep before the baby arrived, I finally found the motivation to make a change.
We got The No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and it WORKED in almost no time at all. After two solid years of frequent night waking I was rewarded with many months of blissful, uninterrupted sleep.
In a nutshell, that’s how I got here. Your journey may have been different but if you’re reading this there’s a good chance you’re looking for a better way, too. In the next installment of this series I PROMISE to begin sharing the actual strategy to help Micah gently fall asleep, along with the results as they happen.
I hope I’m not the only one that has re-gifted a baby gift.
That’s right, I’m admitting it. In fact, I’m about to do it right here in front of you. What else is there to do when you receive an outfit in the size your child has just outgrown? Or in this case, if you won an adorable handmade pink hat for your son?
I love this hat from Stitch Tac Sew. It’s even cuter in real life. And it can be yours. Just leave a comment and tell me your favorite holiday food. No I am not kidding. Yes I am doing research for future posts
And hey, if you’re not going to be needing a baby girl hat size 0-3 months in the near future, leave a comment anyway! This hat would make a great gift. I should know. Heck, maybe it will be re-gifted all around our community until I (theoretically) get pregnant again and have a girl. Then ya’ll could give it to me!
I doubt it. This one’s a keeper. And so is this one . . .
Doesn’t this photo make you just want to come over and cuddle Micahpotamus? You’re more than welcome to. He likes to be thoroughly burped at 4am and will snuggle after a good belch. ANY takers? Seriously, it’s a sacrifice but I’m willing to share him
*Contest ends Thursday, October 21st at 10pm.
HAPPY FRIDAY!!!Read More »
The conversation happening on Monday’s post about THAT Mom is incredible. I wish ya’ll would talk that much every day, but I know that’s not going to happen when I write about broccoli. Maybe someday I will figure out how to make broccoli controversial, but until then most of ya’ll probably aren’t going to comment.
Although I can’t promise that I won’t continue to write about broccoli or what I brush my teeth with or even what I dreamed last night, I know most of you may not find those topics conversation worthy.
So, what do you want to talk about?
Vaccines? I’m working on that. Healthy-ish holiday recipes? Check. Raw milk? Tandem nursing? Meal planning? Cloth diapering? Nursing fashion? I’ll be happy to oblige. Just let me know what’s on your mind in the comment section below and I’ll blog about it!
Oh, and if you sent an idea to my suggestion box and it hasn’t been covered yet, don’t worry. Some of your requests take a little more time to research. Anna D, if you’re still reading, I have a 400 page book on my nightstand that I ordered to answer your question about Brita filters I’ll get there, I promise.
In the meantime, why not send me another suggestion???
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This has been one of the most amazing experiences since I began writing as Mommypotamus. Who needs sleep when I can troll my own blog for late night comments and conversations people are having on articles that didn’t require my brain power to get started?!?!
It’s more than a little intimidating, actually, to see how awesome each of you are. We all doubt the value of our perspective and our words at some point, and ya’ll almost forced me into a mini-identity crisis. Fortunately, I was too tired to be that dramatic, so I just grabbed my BreastFriend and nursed Micah until the oxytocin sent me to my happy place.
Right. Yes. What? Oh. The winner? Got it. Yes, we have one of those. Did I mention I am working on the sleep deprivation thing?
The winner of our amazing blog contest, with 90 unique commentors on her post, You’re Doing What?, is Dianthe Hall. That’s one influential momma!
There could only be one winner. But know that each of you who submitted a post for this contest gave one mommy some MUCH NEEDED rest and entertainment. You have done a service to the blogosphere. Hold your head up high. Be proud.
It was more than a contest. Trust me. You all gave me a gift that I savored every day. I woke up whenever I was able and found a new post waiting for me to read. I got to focus on what’s most important, yet I didn’t lose touch with our community. Thank you for that.
This week I’m gonna see if I have what it takes to “bring the heat” as a momma of two. And I am going to give some stuff away. Not to bribe you to read, of course! But you should come back and see what I’ve got in store. You don’t want to miss out . . . just sayin’.
Stay tuned for a look inside the remaking of Dianthe’s blog. I’ll hand over the reins to Daddypotamus here and there to show you what’s going on. Maybe this contest got you to thinking you’d really like your own blog domain and design someday. Well, now you’ll get to see a little of the process that goes into transitioning from a blogspot or wordpress.com to a self-hosted version. And we’ll definitely show you what Dianthe’s new blog looks like when it’s up and running!Read More »
Stacy: Wow, you got me thinking, I had a plan too, about the type of mother I’d be, what I didn’t plan on was the effect of years sleep deprivation would have on me. I didn’t plan on yelling at my children, I didn’t plan on being grumpy & cranky & I most certainly didn’t plan on being THAT sort of mother….I know I’m not always THAT mother but SHE is around way too often these days!
Maureen: I know what you mean about THAT mother, Stacey. I didn’t like her when she showed up through me at my sleep-deprived worst. What do you find helps to be the mommy you want to be? I’m trying to get back to yoga, but it’s hard to find (make?) the time.
If you have kids, you know who THAT mom is. She’s short-tempered, snappy, and she can’t string five words together to make a logical sentence. Her most defining characteristic? Chronic sleep deprivation.
There is a reason Guantanamo detainees were moved from cell to cell every 2-3 hours. Sleep deprivation is torture. Literally.
But that’s what we co-sleeping, attachment parenting, “cry it out” naysayers signed up for, right?
RIGHT! Wait . . . what?
I embraced attachment parenting because I want my kids to feel loved, safe, and connected to me. As a new mom to Katie, that meant my precious girl never cried it out. She was comforted to sleep on endless occasions . . . nursed, rocked, carried, driven in the car . . . WHATEVER IT TOOK.
And she paid dearly for it. This is where the truth gets a little inconvenient, because the truth is about me and it’s not pretty.
Chronic sleep deprivation seriously affects my parenting abilities. At my worst I am snappy and impatient. No, that’s not true. At my absolute worst I am nuclear meltdown crazy. Seriously, I would let ravenous dogs gnaw a limb off if it would buy me ten more minutes of sleep. On milder days I am simply incoherent and zombie-like. Either way, on those days I doubt my kids are having the “loved, safe, and connected” experience my heart desires for them. The things those “cry it out” moms say start to ring pretty darn true on those dark days. Things like:
You say we’re traumatizing our babies, but at least we are well-rested and able to interact with them throughout the day! We don’t want our babies to cry themselves to sleep, but if we let ourselves end up like you we can’t be good parents. Happy parents= Happy babies.
Ugh. Is this really an either/or proposition? I don’t think so. Pretty much the moment Micah was born I began hatching ( I am so fertile! Hatching and birthing, birthing and hatching :)) a plan to avoid both sleep deprivation and letting my baby boy cry it out. In this series I’ll be sharing my plan along with the results in real-time. No secrets or fake solutions, I promise!
In the meantime, help me refine my tactics. Share your best sleep solutions below!Read More »
Daddypotamus: “This cannot be healthy.”
Katiepotamus: “It is helfee, Daddy!”
Daddypotamus: “It tastes too good.”
Munch, munch, munch.Read More »