Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.
~ Dr. Benjamin Spock
Indeed, if you were you’d know that the Golden Age considered breastfeeding a “vulgar” act for those poor “disadvantaged people.” Something that mothers told their daughters is “just not done, dear” . . . or worse, something that could be harmful!
“[Mothers] should be told that the child will not be deprived, that in fact, artificial feeding is better for the infant . . . Considering the hazards [of breastfeeding], it might be well that no mother nursed her child.”
~ Dr. Rheingold, The Fear of Being a Woman (1964)
Add in hospital policies that routinely sabatoged mothers in their breastfeeding efforts (by insisting on LONG separation at night in which baby was not allowed to help build mama’s milk supply by nursing) – and does it even surprise you that breastfeeding rates were a dismal twenty-percent?
This is not meant to criticize or lay blame. The women of the 50s, 60s and 70s were lied to on so many fronts. In fact, OUR “experts” now say THEIR “experts” triggered the obesity epidemic by advising women that it was perfectly safe to smoke during pregnancy, perfectly healthy to try to “keep one’s figure” while growing a child in one’s belly, and nutritionally superior to formula feed.¹ I’d say there’s more to it than that, but it sure didn’t help!
You Know Who Else It Didn’t Help? YOU.
And your sister. And your best friend. Plus anyone else you know and love who might get all gooey-eyed and make babies someday. This affected all of us, but not in the way you might think. I’m not talking about the general societal horror of breastfeeding (though there is that!), I’m talking about tangible suffering: Guilt over “not making enough milk,” frustration with our “high needs” and/or colicky children, adrenal burnout and more.
In many cases the reason for these conditions could be easily corrected, but isn’t. Why? Because in just one generation we lost our communal wisdom about how to breastfeed and what to do when problems arise.
What problems?!?!? Women were made to breastfeed!!! Lately there have been some convos in which the Weston A. Price Foundation was accused of being “anti-breastfeeding.” While it’s true that they passionately advocate their homemade formula over industrial versions (which often contain hydrogenated oils, high fructose corn syrup, and even traces of a chemical found in rocket fuel) – most people don’t seem to find this to be problematic. The sensitivity seems to lie in what is perceived as a bias against our faith in ourselves and our bodies. My hope in writing this series it to affirm that:
- Throughout history, there have ALWAYS been women who were unable to breastfeed. Under those circumstances other mothers (wet nurses) stepped in and literally saved lives.
- Many women today have breastfeeding difficulties that could be resolved by recovering one simple piece of wisdom. We should do everything we can to bring awareness to this fact and support mamas that desperately want to breastfeed.
I thought so until the night I nearly let his little frame crash to the floor during a bleary-eyed 4am feeding. The next morning I sent out an email for help, and a couple days later Mellanie of For Babies Sake knocked on my door. Three seconds into his exam she announced the problem.
“He’s definitely tongue-tied.”
He’s definitely WHAT?!?!? I had already nursed a child for three years by this point, so I hope you’ll excuse my disbelief in realizing that I hadn’t noticed my son’s tongue was tied to the floor of his mouth. She was right, though, and somewhere inside I knew it. Unlike most babies, Micah woke more often to nurse as he grew older – by five months it was every 1-2 hours around the clock. His tongue-tie prevented him from fully draining my breast at a feeding, so as his nutritional needs grew he compensated by nursing more often. (He turned out to be lip-tied, too, which made the problem even worse)
Why Am I Telling You This?
Your story is most likely very different, but if you have ever had problems with low-milk supply, colic, reflux or painful nursing, read on. What our great-grandmothers knew – and what I discovered the hard way – is that tongue and lip ties are common and every child should be checked at birth.
If you’re how we lost the wisdom of our great-grandmothers, it’s simple. Synthetic nipples are easier than breasts for tongue-tied babies to manage, so with the rise of bottle-feeding tongue-tie issues virtually disappeared. Now that breastfeeding is back, we need to reinfuse our culture with awareness about these condition to prevent doctors and parents from miscategorizing common tie-related complications (such as the ones below) under other diagnoses.
- Low milk supply (depending on the severity of the tie a baby may not be able to stimulate milk production through vigorous nursing)
- Painful nursing
- Early weaning because child gets frustrated at the breast
- Tooth Decay – Improper tongue mobility may prevent babies from clearing milk from their mouth, causing decay (especially on the top front teeth)
- Colic, gassiness (inability to maintain suction at the breast means baby swallows a lot of extra air)
- Sleep apnea
- Abnormal sleep patterns (waking often to feed because they are unable to fully drain the breast and therefore always hungry)
- Speech difficulties
- Gap between teeth/jaw issues – tight tissues can prevent normal development
Am I saying that every instance of one of these diagnoses is tongue-tie related. Definitely not. There are legitimate circumstances in which something else is the cause, but ties are easy to check for so why not rule them out?
Think Your Baby May Have a Tongue or Lip Tied?
(Micah had all of these except poor weight gain. We never tried a paci or bottle)
- Difficulty latching on or falls off the breast easily
- Gumming our chewing the nipple while nursing
- Unable to hold a paci or bottle
- Poor weight gain
- Excessive drooling
- Baby is not able to fully drain breast
(I had none of these except discomfort)
- Creased/flat/blanched nipple after feedings
- Cracked/blistered/bleeding nipples
- Discomfort while nursing
- Plugged ducts
If the majority of these symptoms apply to you and/or your baby, chances are very likely that your little one is tongue or lip tied. If only a few apply there could still be an issue. Want to know for sure? Tomorrow I’ll show you how to make an at-home diagnosis, get a consult with the leading expert in the U.S. for FREE, and seek out treatment options.
You never know who might be struggling privately with one of these issues – why not help get the word out and share this post?
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