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You’re Invited (And I’m The Guinea Pig)

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You're Invited (And I'm The Guinea Pig_

I Showed Up To My Sixteenth Birthday Party In A Bra

Oh yes I did.

To clarify, it was a sports bra, and if you’d spent the afternoon rock climbing on a 106F August day and then driven home in a car with no A/C you probably would have, too.

Especially if, er, you didn’t know your 30 closest friends were waiting for you at home with a giant chocolate cake to smash in your face.

For my seventeenth birthday I was thrown into the back of a van and taken camping – the next year was a reprisal of friendly kidnapping followed by a lakeside BBQ. You’re seeing the theme here, right?

Personality wise, I am more likely to give up indoor plumbing at 38 weeks pregnant than throw myself a party. Ironically, I just did the plumbing thing (don’t ask!), and now I’m going to do the second. It’s an unbaby shower of sorts, and OF COURSE you’re invited!

Happening Today: A Mommypotamus Mother Blessing

Mamas, I’ve told you this before, but I seriously love you. If it weren’t for you I’d just be some crazy woman concocting ferments alone in my kitchen, but you have surrounded me with a community that continually inspires me – not to mention making me laugh pretty often! Though I don’t need any more stuff for babypotamus, I would love the gift of your presence as I prepare for his/her arrival. Since I can’t invite you all over, I’m asking you to join me today for a virtual blessingway.

What Is A Blessingway?

A Blessingway is a Navajo tradition that focuses on nurturing the mother – “filling her cup” if you will – before she gives birth. I’ve been wanting to write about it since I was invited to one last year, but hadn’t really considered making myself a guinea pig until now. This way you get a crash course in Blessingway basics and a chance to practice before you host one with your friends. Sound good?  Good! Here’s what you need to know:

When mamas gather in real life this time of celebration can take many forms . . .

  • Women sometimes bring a bead to give to the mother-to-be, which is strung into a necklace for her to wear during labor. Often the beads are selected based on the mama’s favorite colors (I love this idea!)
  • Belly painting and henna tattoos are also common. Belly casts are often done as well.
  • Guests usually share a light meal together (each woman brings something to share)
  • Pampering – such as painting mama’s toenails or massaging her hands with pregnancy-safe essential oils – is also not frowned upon
  • And of course, the mama-to-be is showered with kind words, encouragement, and blessings/prayers

(find more ideas here)

For those of us that have close friends/sisters/aunts who live too far away to attend, a virtual Blessingway is a great alternative. It can’t make the miles disappear, but it is a wonderful way to connect with and support each other.

Will You Join Me In This New/Old Community Birthing Tradition?

I know I have been a bit silly in this post, so let me take a moment to switch gears. First of all, let me thank you for the warmth, camraderie and laughter you have all brought to my life. I love you guys – I told you that, right?

If you’d like to participate, now is the time to take a few deep, cleansing breaths. Imagine your lungs massaging your heart as you breathe in, then feel it warm and expand as you exhale. Consider doing this 3 minute relaxation exercise if you’ve been sitting hunched over a computer for too long.

Think about the births of your own children (if you have them), and imagine what you would say to yourself if you could do it over again. If you are not a mama, don’t hang back! Your support and encouragement is most definitely needed here.

Next, share ANYTHING you want to in the comments below, like:

  • A blessing or prayer
  • Your favorite birth quote
  • Words of wisdom/advice
  • Well wishes
  • A story about how you found me (and why you didn’t run away!)

What Happens Next?

After you leave your comment Daddypotamus will select some to read to me during labor for encouragement. If you would like you can also tie a small ribbon around your wrist as a reminder to think of/pray for me during these last few days/weeks. We’ll let you know via my Facebook page when I go into labor – you can cut the cord then and know that we will be doing the same thing soon!

After that, I’ll be sharing an intimate (but not graphic) video from the birth here on Mommypotamus. Thank you guys for celebrating this amazing journey with us!

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Note: I have used the term Blessingway because it is the one most commonly used – for those looking for info on hosting a celebration this is the term that will most likely lead them here  for help with ideas. However, it is my understanding that some Navajo prefer for non-Navajo participants to use a different term, like Mother Blessing.

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121 Responses to You’re Invited (And I’m The Guinea Pig)

  1. Laura says:

    Dear Mommypotamus, I found you when I scanned through the Internet to find something natural to cure my acne. I found this blog and a lot more than just a cure for this one thing.Though I don’t personally know you, you have given me so much energy, so much knowledge and I am really enjoying it! I don’t have kids yet, but if I should become pregnant one day – this is the first place I seek for advice for anything starting from nutrition to baby-care. Because you really know everything, just like Mommies do!:) I wish you and your family all the best and safe arrival for the little-one!:)

  2. Jessica says:

    One thing I didn’t do while in lahttp://www.myjoyfilledlife.com/2012/12/06/prayers-for-labor-preparing-for-baby/ttp://www.myjoyfilledlife.com/2012/12/06/prayers-for-labor-preparing-for-baby/or with any of my kids was pray and I wish I had. When reading other birth stories and stuff I found this prayer and I think it is lovely.
    Dear Lord:Thank you for this contraction, Lord!!!  I welcome it, and allow it to do its job!You created me to do this!!  I have faith in that!  Cast away all my fears and help me relax my entire body so it can take over and bring this baby in the world.Thank you, Lord, for Your safety and love, and this precious baby. In Jesus Name,Amen

    There’s more where that came from on myjoyfilledlife.com

    • Jessica says:

      Oh my. I’m sorry. That came out a complete mess. The beginning of that was supposed to say “something I didn’t do while I was in labor with any of my kids was pray and I wish I had”.
      At least the prayer part came out ok!

  3. Kathey says:

    Dear Lovey Mommypotamus,
    We found you learning about real food, but particularly dove in when we realized our son had a lip tie. Your story of Micah’s journey was a rock in our storm as we made a similar choice for our son.
    When you are laboring and giving birth and you think…”I can’t do this. I can’t do this anymore.” Remember, YOU ARE DOING IT! If you think “I’m not ready to be a mother again” or “I’m not ready to be mom to this child”, every woman has thought the same thing while bringing a child into the world. And you are ready.
    All Love Light and visions of rapidly blooming flowers to you! Enjoy the Birth!
    Kathey

  4. Sarah K says:

    I pray for a safe and healthy labor and that you take a few moments to remember the experience and enjoy the beauty that is life!

  5. Mae says:

    Reflecting on my labors, something I would say to myself if I could do it over again, is: “Don’t be afraid to speak your mind and tell people what you want.” My first labor, I was terribly intimidated by everyone — even my very helpful husband! I would have been much happier and comfortable if I’d felt the confidence to say, “I need this” or “I don’t want to do that” or “X is how I’m feeling right now” or “Be quiet! I don’t want you to talk!”. :-)

    I really started following your blog about 6 months ago, and finding you was what tipped me from the sidelines of the real food/WAPF movement, to being a full-fledged advocate of a natural, real food lifestyle. I appreciate your down-to-earth approach and your well-researched, easy-to-understand posts.

    Congrats and best wishes on your new little one!

  6. Rachel in Oklahoma says:

    “This is what mommies do. God created me to be a mommy. He will give the strength to do this. I can do this.”
    God’s blessings on us both for a smooth labor and delivery! (My second is due mid-Novemberish as well. This time, I am excited to embrace the labor experience and work with my body, have a home birth as planned, and not fight it as I was with my pre-term firstborn.) Thank you for your baby and pregnancy advice (ESPECIALLY the stuff about magnesium and morning sickness!!!!) Cheers!

  7. I had these Bible verses memorized that I said to myself during contractions! When I went through transition and started pushing, my head wasn’t clear enough to recite them anymore, but my husband prayed over me the whole time :)

    “I can do ALL things through Christ who STRENGTHENS me.” Phillipians 4:13

    “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:29-31

    “The LORD is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation.” Exodus 15:2

    “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9

    Also, I wish now that I had used aromatherapy during labor. Peppermint would have been great for the nausea!

    Many Blessings and know that you’re covered in hundreds of prayers throughout this experience!

  8. Being pregnant with my seventh child right now, I think this is such a wonderful idea! With my son Noah’s birth, we knew he was a boy and had been calling him by name since the ultrasound. When I was in labor, I talked to him and asked him what I needed to do to help him get out. It was a beautiful experience and I felt so connected to him. I felt he did guide me in different positions to try and it was a very smooth labor. I also posted some meaningful verses on the wall next to the tub I labored in and would read them between contractions. Next time I will laminate them. :) Many blessings to you and your baby. :)

  9. tiffany says:

    I pray that all the womanly strength God has blessed you with comes roaring out like a lion and guides you thru a perfect, beautiful, natural, just the way its suppose to be birth! Your blog gave me the courage to seek out a midwife and natural birth after my 1st tramatic hospital birth. Well, I didn’t end up with my planned water birth, but I did end up with a beautiful, natural, FAST birth in my car(Jaguar) and have a beautiful little boy named Jag. He is 5 months old.

  10. Elvia says:

    I have three children, two are teenagers and a 10 yr, going on twenty. My oldest is special, he has Cerebral Palsy. I had him naturally, the other two C-section, as you can see the way of that, and the fact that the two older boys were 10 lbs. My daughter was 6lbs 8oz. Crazy I know! They have been a blessing in our loves, we have learned a lot from our special son. He truly was a gift from God. He has allowed us to see through the eyes of God, all merciful, all forgiving, all loving. He is our Angel on earth. I wouldn’t change anything from either of my three births, I would do things the same. BUT I only wish to have the knowledge I have now, back then. Knowing that everything you are told, isn’t. No matter who tells you, a Doctor, mother, sister, friend, or mom-in-law. You will learn to hear your child and respond to that need in that moment. I do ask God’s total blessing on you, during your labor and throughout your and son/daughter’s life.
    God bless!!!

  11. Misty says:

    Dearest Mommypotamus, I honestly cannot remember how I came to be so blessed to stumble onto this community. I was likely either searching for ideas or help in our own natural living journey or was intrigued by a shared post or pin. I’ve got two children and we’ve been run through a gamut of health concerns and issues, but your ideas fall into line with my own beliefs and ideals so very often! I’ve only recently heard of a “Blessingway” and am blessed to be (virtually ;)) invited to participate in yours. What I’d say is relevant not only during labor and delivery, or even as a mother. Follow your gut. Always. As a mother, it’s called often a “mother’s intuition”, but regardless what you call it, I firmly believe that God blessed us greatly when he gave us this sixth sense. I’ve both succeeded and failed in following my gut, but we’ve been blessed abundantly when I have heeded its nudging. May you be blessed with peace, health, and grace as you bring a new life into this world. God be with you and yours. <3

  12. nicki woller says:

    i chose to give birth to my precious son at home via VABC because of your birth stories about katie and micah. so, when you are in the heat of transition and nearing the 10 c mark…remember that: your body was designed by God to bring forth this precious life; when you want to give up and simply cannot move forward another step remember that His power is made perfect in weakness and He will carry you through; realize that you are SO close now to holding that itty little baby and smelling that sweet newborn breath; that if you choose to keep going that this child too will have an incredible birth story that will bless some other mama to do the same thing….and lastly that you are so loved, by people who have never met you personally but will get to meet you someday on the flip side of heaven. blessings and prayers for a safe & beautiful birth.

  13. sarah range says:

    May you be in tune with Nature, the rythyms, the ebb and flow of ocean.currents as your body prepares to birth another light in this universe. May the sacredness of your birthing experience come along with ease and within the perfect alignment of the universe. May you be surrounded by love and light!

  14. Isela says:

    You are so strong and you were made for this!

  15. Ana says:

    “All is well”
    ” I am safe”
    “I am relaxed”
    “That was easy! “

  16. Kathy says:

    My favorite quote to remember: “Cooking and cleaning can wait till tomorrow, for children grow up, much to our sorrow. So quiet down cobwebs and dust go to sleep. I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.”

  17. Nicole says:

    Beautiful Mommypotamus! May God bless you with another beautiful miracle to your family as you have blessed us all with your authenticism, warmth and love. I have loved this poem since coming across it for another mommy-to-be and so hope that it is shared with you!

    A baby asked God
    A baby asked God, “They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?”
    “Your angel will be waiting for you and will take care of you.”
    The child further inquired, “But tell me, here in heaven I don’t have to do anything but sing and smile to be happy.”
    God said, “Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you. And you feel your angel’s love and be very happy.”
    Again the child asked, “And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me if I don’t know the language?”
    God said, “Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak.”
    “And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?”
    God said, “Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how pray.”
    “Who will protect me?”
    God said, “Your angel will defend you even if it means risking it’s life.”
    “But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore.”
    God said, “Your angel will always talk to you about Me and will teach you the way to come back to Me, even though I will always be next to you.”
    At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly asked,
    “God, if I am to leave now, please tell me my angel’s name.”
    “You will simply call her, “Mom”.

  18. erin richter says:

    Just keep going, the pain will be over soon and it will he worth it.

  19. Megan Tye says:

    I found you on Facebook. I read almost every thing you post. I trust your research and appreciate your passion. I talk about things you post so much that in our house you seem more like a personal friend :) Remember during labor, that God made your body to do this. Pain equals progression – it means you’re getting closer to meeting your baby! Deep breaths. You got this girl!!! ;)

  20. Amanda Iden Howell says:

    How can I thank you enough for everything you have taught that has now benefited my family and children in so many ways?
    My daughter was born with digestive issues and many a food intolerance. I wish I had found you sooner! But you’re helping us so much now and she is feeling awesome!
    If we have any more children I’ll do many things differently because of what I have learned from you.
    I am praying for you and feeling great vibes for you for your upcoming birth! I hope the spirit of calmness and serene focus is with you during the birthing process. Sending lots of our love.

  21. Liz says:

    Heather,
    I am Mama to 3 beautiful lil boys. Remembering their blessingways and all the love poured into me brings tears to my eyes.
    May you also be filled with love as you await the birth of your little one. Connecting and giving birth to your child made and surrounded by love is one of the most magical moments in our lives.
    Remember that each birth and being is unique. It is easy to go into our third birth with expectations about what labor will or should be. Let go of shoulds and have to’s, and follow your heart. Relax into labor and know that your babe will soon be in your arms. Wishing you a beautiful birth and hope that is all that you dream for it to be

  22. Brenda says:

    Dear Mommypotamus,
    I found you when I did a search for homemade gummies! I am not yet a mommy but am really looking forward to the experience. I pray that you have a quick and safe labor as well as a happy and healthy baby. Congratulations to you and Daddypotamus on your new bundle of joy! =D

  23. Carts says:

    Labor and birth are unique to each mama and baby. Stay in the moment, cherish it before allowing that moment to gracefully pass. Drink in the beauty and love surrounding this special time as well as the awesome power given you for this process that is so delicately balanced with tenderness!

  24. Karen Wood says:

    May God bless you and your family and your world, forever and ever. Amen
    And I can’t wait to see the baby!

  25. Margie says:

    Heather,
    I wish you all the joy and wonder that a child can bring. I love reading your blog and you have given
    so many wonderful things to the world. May you labor be brief and your child healthy.

    Goddess, bless this mother and child where they play, sleep and dream
    For a child’s imagination is a wonderful thing.
    Now add a touch of faery dust and a houseful of love,
    As I conjure joy and they receive your blessings from above.

  26. Lesley Spradlin says:

    These are some of my favorite affirmations I used with both my births–many are adapted from the books “Christ centered childbirth” which is a FAVE of mine!!
    Oh wow…this is gonna be long lol!!
    For God has not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, and of love and of a sound mind. Timothy 1:7

    I am never alone…I am surrounded by the presence of God and His Holy Spirit and can trust Him that I rest in His hands. He has given me this baby and will bring him forth.

    Lord, thank you for each contraction that you have given me. I know that each one will bring me closer to my child’s first breath. Lord, show Alexa the way to come out and see the world that you have made. I give my body permission to open up and let my baby out. I release all tension, for I know that it is not of you, but of the enemy.

    Bring me back to a state of deep rest in you Lord, and please take away all distractions so that I can hear your waves of comfort rush over me. I have made it this far Lord, take me the rest of the way. Be with me now—overcome any evil thoughts—you have complete control over me.

    Renew my strength with very breath you give me. Spirit fall on me like the rain. Come down from the heavens and hold my hand. I worship you right now with all my heart, strength, soul and mind. Direct my thoughts and show me the way to birth my child.

    Lord let everything go smoothly and according to your design. If I need help, let skilled and patient hands show me the way. I am not afraid to open my eyes and look upon the face you created inside of me.

    Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with Thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6

    “For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future with hope. Then when you call upon me and come and pray to me, I will hear you. When you search for me, you will find me; if you seek me with all your heart, I will let you find me, says the Lord, and I will restore your fortunes and gather you from all the nations…” Jeremiah 29:11-14

    God, in His infinite wisdom, has perfectly designed my body for giving birth.

    Oh, Lord, you have searched me and known me. You know when I sit down and when I rise up, you discern my thoughts from far away. You search out my path and my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, O Lord, you know it completely. You both precede me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to know! I can never escape from your spirit! I can never get away from your presence! Psalm 139: 1-?

    God, in His infinite wisdom, has perfectly designed my body for giving birth.

    God’s grace is sufficient for pregnancy and birth, and His timing and design are superior to anything man might contrive.

    I believe in my ability to give birth. I trust my body and God’s design for its work. I have faith, courage and patience. I will completely cooperate with my body to bring my baby into the world with joy. I keep myself completely relaxed. My body will give birth to my baby safely and effectively in God’s own time. I am prepared and ready to welcome my baby. I do not fight the birth, my body is relaxed – I am not afraid. I
    have nothing to fear.

    My baby’s birth is a calm, joyous experience. Each part of my body is completely relaxed, allowing the easy passage of my baby. I relax my body through each stretching sensation, allowing my womb to work effectively. My baby and I are safe when the sensations are strong. I focus my attention on breathing, bringing in oxygen, which surrounds my muscles: bringing in nourishment, and washing out fatigue.

    I am surrounded by people who love me and pray for the baby and me. I have sisters of the heart throughout the world who are praying for me and share their strength with me through time and space.

    It is safe for me to let go completely. I need only let my body do its work and those who love me and are with me will take care of everything else. I can relax into the work of my body. My uterus is working well to bring my baby down and out of my pelvis…there is plenty of room for my baby to pass through. It is safe for me to speak my feelings and desires…I am willing to allow others the pleasure of helping me. My baby is being massaged and stimulated through the sensations of birth. I surrender completely to the opening and sensations and the process of giving birth. The power of birth strengthens me, my baby, my children, and my family. My God will use my body as His temple and to His glory as I give birth.

    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5,6

    Be STILL and Know that I AM GOD!!

  27. Evette says:

    Mommypotamus,
    I just want to say I love your blog. You inspire me, I cannot wait to hear your birth story of babypotamus #3. Your blog, and the healthy home economist are my 2 favorites! I still love to read the other blogs too. But, I love how real you are and caring. Your children are so lucky to have you as a Mom. Reading your stories of your long natural births inspire me to one day give birth naturally, even if it does take long. Please don’t ever stop blogging or sharing your stories with us. Good luck on your future birth, may God be with you, and may you be strong!

  28. Michelle says:

    All the courage and strength to you and baby.. What helped me tremendously during all three of my natural births was breathing through the pain, with every contraction I would breath in deep and send the oxygen to where it hurt most (you’ll have to try). It makes you feel so focused and concentrated and as if you are all the way inside your body. Ride the waves and hopefully nr 3 will come into the world easy :) Hugs from Denmark!!

  29. Heather, I pray a blessing for you in your delivery that all will go well according to your heart’s desire, and that you, your baby and family will have a wonderful experience. Breathe. Diffuse Lavender if you can, and only have those around you who will support and encourage you in your endeavors. Wishing you all the best!

  30. I first found you through the Village Green Network and have become a loyal follower. I love your articles and would like to extend to you blessings in your labor and delivery. I have 4 children and loved being pregnant. There is no experience in the world like giving birth and I will be praying for yours to go smoothly. Thanks for sharing your experience with us all.

  31. Amanda says:

    I’m so excited for you! You can do this without running from it, and at the end will be sweet baby snuggles awaiting.

    I found you right before we were trying to get pregnant. You were the inspiration behind my diet evolving from just Paleo to a more WAPF version of Paleo. (I’m too lazy to soak/sprout grains but if I weren’t I’d attempt to eat them more often), and led me to the Beautiful Babies book, and magnesium for morning sickness (THANK YOU) and so much more. I will be thinking of you as you journey through labor, supporting you mentally as you have supported me so much through your blog. :)

  32. Meg says:

    You’ve” grown” this baby inside your belly for months & now it’s finally time to meet your baby, your little miracle! You can & will do this & it is & will be completely Amazing! Breath. Make sure to smell that brand new baby breath & just get lost in the moments with your little love in ur arms for the first time, like no one else is even there! -love & very best wishes

  33. Stephanie says:

    I wish you a smooth deliver, the feeling of being safe, loved and supported.
    Remember there is a smile coming, so perfect and beautiful it will both break and fill your heart. That smile is worth any pain. Fight for it, it will be your greates treasure

  34. Jamie says:

    Wow, how very cool that you’re doing this! Here goes!
    I think I found you while searching for some more vaccination info when I was first pregnant and having the debate a few months ago – and I loved what I read. I love all of the information on your site – and how open you are with all of this personal information, almost as if daring people who disagree to say something. So brave! You’re going to be an amazing mama to this new babypotomus and all the rest already here! Breathe through it all and know that you’ve got TONS of support!

  35. Angie says:

    I found your blog through another kindred-spirit mama, as we get together to let our children play while we cook lovely traditional foods to share between us. My first thoughts were how much things have changed since I drank my first glass of raw milk and puzzled over too-salty first attempt lacto-fermented sauerkraut! In my small-town community I often felt like I was babbling to myself about my natural-living, traditional food enthusiasm. All the other mamas I knew were feeding their kids tofu and soy milk as first foods, or bragging about how often they went to McDonald’s instead of cooking at home. Finding your blog, and others like it through guest posts, I’ve realized that somewhere I missed out–I wish I could have channeled that energy positively into a blog of my own all these years, instead of just feeling ostracized by the locals!

    My third child was born at home last September–I have had three wonderful, beautiful natural births, and I am so thankful for that. All three were so different, but ultimately so perfect. My last birth was my most painful birth (I had back labor for the first time), but it really put things in perspective and made me feel more understanding of painful labor experiences. Strangely, everything went EXACTLY how I wanted it to, but it still wasn’t quite what I had expected!

    One thing I carried with me from my previous two births was to take it one bit at a time, to remember that the hardest part is right when things are nearly over, and mostly to get out of the way and allow my body to do what it needed to birth. And as far as I have heard, third babies are often very quick.

  36. Caitlin says:

    I love your site. you’re post about The Real Cause of Acne changed my life and the recent post about bathtubs prompted me to check mine only to find out it was positive for lead :( I’m having my 3 oldest boys re-tested for lead levels this week. Anyhow, I just has my fourth baby boy and first homebirth. It was an amazing experience! One of my favorite birth related quotes is “your body is not a lemon” (Ina May Gaskin) and is just a general reference to all of our abilities to give birth. During the eapecially intense parts of labor I like to sort of internally talk to my baby and say things like ” we can do this together” – it helps me focus on the baby and I being a team and I like that :) during really intense contractions I visualize my whole body “opening” and try to focus on each wave being super constructive (helpse think of the discomfort being so worth it!). Good luck – you will be awesome!!!

  37. Caitlin says:

    Sorry for the above typos – comment was written ony iPhone while nursing :)

  38. Theresa Kelly says:

    Health, wholeness, and happiness, for you and your little one!

  39. Olinda Paul says:

    I found you by toodling around the internet one day. I didn’t know what a mommypotamus was,so I had to find out what kind of animal this was. To my great surprise it was YOU! Wow…I wanta be a mommypotamus. “You look MARRRRRRVOLOUS darling”. Now, although my kids are grown, I believe in passing it forward so I decided to put your site on FB whenever I found something interesting…which is a lot. So you have helped many of my friends make kid paint, gummy stars, natural cough medicine, natural skin cleansing alternatives and so much more. I love your approach on CLEAN and healthy food, how to make natural cleansers etc. I try it all baby. And they work! this family is one lucky group. Blessings to you, your little baby girl and the rest of the clan. Your only going to get better. Not only is the world your oyster, it’s your pearl.

  40. Kristine Winniford says:

    I love your request, thank you for including us all in this amazing time for your family. Thank you for the opportunity to help give back to you what you have given to so many: love, support, and encouragement.

    Just before my 1st birth I read (or heard) something that said at any moment, when a mother is laboring for her baby, there are 100,000 women around the world also in labor. That was incredibly powerful for me and something I’ve reflected on during each labor. I have thought of this sparkling river of energy that flows over the earth, like a jet stream on a weather map, and unites us all in our final moments of waiting to meet the precious baby that has been growing inside of us.

    When you are in labor there will not only be 100,000 woman laboring along side you, but another 50,000 of us cheering and praying for you. When you reach THAT point: that point when you just want to be done, you just want to hold that precious being, name that gentle soul, and come full circle to holding that darling newborn; just remember that you are not alone, you are a strong and powerful being that was perfectly designed to nourish and birth this perfect little being.

    AND THEN PUSH!!!! =)

    Please let us know when the little one begins to make his/her journey into the Land of the Potomi so we can send our love and encouragement across the river of motherhood.

  41. Sandy McG-B says:

    Dear Mommypotamus, your children’s birth stories were the first ones I ever read. They gave me insight into what giving birth really means, and the strength and beauty of a woman guiding and supporting her child’s entrance into the world. It inspired me to take on drug-free child birth, gentle, cosy, loving birth rather than clinical delivery, which is the norm in my world. We prepared for a birthing centre water birth, and while that wasn’t possible in the end, the preparation and journey towards that goal were invaluable, and supported us through our late night caesarian anyway. our gorgeous daughter, who has been happy and healthy her whole life, has just turned one, and I wish you the blessing of the same for the loved Babypotamus. Blessings and gratitude from distant lands…

    Sandy (NZ)

  42. Dara says:

    I had a blessing way before the birth of my second child, who turned out to be a girl. It was beautiful, sacred, and like a giant hug for my soul. I have never felt so loved, or so ready for childbirth. I felt in every part of my being, that I was a part of the this great river of womanhood, culminating for me through childbirth. I felt connected to my foremothers, to my sisters, to all of womankind. It was a beautiful, beautiful experience

    My word for you, for this birth, is Release. release to the process of birth. Release your worries, and allow your baby to be born. Open your hands, and release. May this time, this birth, be full of light and love.

  43. Annabelle says:

    Dear Heather,
    I found you because I became a ‘reluctant’ blogger myself and you were in my path. I didn’t run away because I haven’t been able to run away from myself yet either, as I would consider me much stranger than you :) Instead, I was drawn to you because you have such an obviously warm spirit and such a creative mind that combines for a very informative and entertaining website. My husband and I became Gma and Gpa for the second time just last week and I wish our daughter-in-law had experienced a Mother Blessing…but now we’ll know for next time!
    xo Annabelle

  44. Kirsten V says:

    My dear, dear Heather,
    What a beautiful idea! What a privilege to be invited to share in this exciting and intimate time! We’ve been “friends” for a while now, and how I treasure and enjoy our friendship. There’s just nobody like you. :)

    My words for birth are short and sweet, and I’ve heard my midwife say them on more than one occasion: Let It Be.

    And to add to that, I would love to encourage you that every birth is different, and though they have seemed to follow a pattern, don’t fear that this birth will be the same as the others. Of course, I really don’t know WHAT it will be like, but I KNOW it will be beautiful. And wonderful. Full of love. Overflowing with life.

    YOU ARE LOVED! <3

  45. Dear Mommypotamus,

    I found your website quite by accident one day when searching for information about my health issues. I love how you write and how you research everything. I read everything you write and have implemented so many things from your website! Here is my prayer for you:

    Dear Lord, I pray that you give her a safe and easy labor and birthing experience. Be with her and the father and the birthing team as they labor together to bring forth and new and precious life. Give her many happy moments and memories, times of joy and laughter that overshadow the work and pain. Giver her strength and stamina and remind her that you knew her before she was born and that you know her child already. Remind her that she is blessed and that she is a blessing to many many people. I ask all this in the name of Jesus, Amen.

  46. Ashley says:

    Dear mommypotamus,
    Dear God I pray for a smooth and fast delivery. I pray for mom and baby to be healthy. At one of my baby showers someone gave me a great piece of advice, “The best thing you can do for your children is love their Father.”

  47. Dear sweet Mommypotamus,
    As the mother of 8 children, I want you to know that “you are special”! Mothers are called to a very special and amazing life. We are paid the least monetarily and yet the richest in blessings. We have the honor of carrying a life, feeling it grow and move, then helping the life emerge and see the world! We get to hold the most amazing miracle in our own bodies and then in our arms! I am praying for you and your baby. I am praying your delivery is blessed with ease and that the beautiful life you have within you brings you unspeakable joy. I pray that your whole family be blessed through this experience and that your baby is born totally healthy. May God, the creator of all things be glorified as you answer His call of being a mother. God bless you!

  48. Dearest Mommypotamus,
    All the best for the upcoming arrival of another babypotamus! You must be excited!
    I discovered your blog nearly a year ago now. I stumbled across it by pure accident, and what a fortunate accident indeed. I was searching for a recipe of some description, and found it, plus many other interesting delights on your blog! Your blog, plus the others I have discovered because of yours, have turned my life around. I used to put any old store-bought cosmetics on my skin. Now I make all cosmetics and skincare for my man and I, not to mention all the household products. And now I am slowly developing it all into a small business! My dream is to one day be able to work full time on Santé. I am so grateful to have “met” you. Please know that, even though I don’t know you personally, I love you for your warmth, your caring nature, and your inspiring “conversations” and tips!
    I will be thinking of you and babypotamus number 3 all the way from New Zealand!
    Much love, Nellie x

  49. Sara says:

    Dear Heather,
    I’m soooo excited for your family to be welcoming a new member any day now!!! I don’t know your family personally, but feel like I do because your writing is so intimate and honest and inspiring! I love that your family has moved to the country and basically, I want to be just like you :) I had my first home-birth 9 months ago and it was incredible! Your stories of your births were such great preparation for me! I found you when I was starting GAPS about 2 years ago and have been reading every word you write ever since! You’re an amazing writer and sooo knowledgeable about natural health!! Thank you for sharing your life with us and I can’t wait to see some of your upcoming birth video!
    Love, Sara

  50. April says:

    This comes from a home birth midwife from up near my hometown in Duluth, MN. Here is an excerpt of the article (full article at: http://www.mothering.com/community/a/the-last-days-of-pregnancy-a-place-of-in-between):

    To give birth, a woman must go to the place between this world and the next, to that thin membrane between here and there. To the place where life comes from, to the mystery, in order to reach over to bring forth the child that is hers. This round woman is not going into battle, but she is going to the edge of her being where every resource she has will be called on to assist in this journey.

    This (and the rest of the article, which is about the importance of the last few weeks of pregnancy) was so helpful to me during those last few weeks, as well as during birth itself (my second boy, a water birth at home – my first was induced in the hospital). It just reminded me of the true importance of what I was doing, and that I was made for this, and picked for THIS baby. My babies, they picked me. It’s an honor and a privilege to bring them into this world.

    I just love your blog. I don’t remember how I found you, but I’m so glad I did.

  51. mindy says:

    Dear Mommypotomus:
    I no longer remember exactly how or why I found you because you have become my number 1 go-to blog when wondering about a natural remedy, a GAPS friendly menu item, how to this and that, etc! Regardless, as evident by my first sentence, I am so glad I DID find you. You are a household name in our house. You are an inspiration to so many and I am so glad the world will be gifted another potomus! Best wishes for a fabulous birth!

  52. Crysta says:

    I pray that you seek God’s strength to be manifested in you and that you may bless Him through your birth experience. Prayers and hugs!

  53. mc says:

    I stumbled across your blog looking for better eating for my family and dairy free ideas for my 2 allergic boys. And I love everything I read on your blog (plus I am a HUGE fanatic of hippopotamus that I couldn’t help but be drawn to the name) :) I pray that you have a safe and blessed labor and birth of your sweet babe! That little potamus is definitely blessed to be joining your “herd”. Thank you for all that you do to inspire others to live a better, healthier life!

  54. “A woman is pregnant for nine months, she is postpartum for the rest of her life. The biochemical truth of this is good news for the healing of our planet. Postpartum women are a gentle and essential force of nature. They are full of love, and there can never be too much love.” ~Ibu Robin Lim

    My friend, you are brimming with love and have done much to turn our crunchy little world on a more gentle and healing path. We are all lucky to share even a small part of your life.

    May the newest Potami’s birth day be filled with health, strength, love, and the excitement of touching your toes again!

    Sending much love to you, Daniel, and all 3 of my favorite mini Potamies. <3

  55. Joanna Vanderkooi says:

    Father God, thank You for gift of bearing children. Thank You for blessing this family with another child. Bless this mama as she prepares to deliver this baby. Thank You that You have known this child since before the beginning of time, and You loved him/her so much you sent Your Son to die in his/her place. Oh, Father, bless this dear mama with calmness of mind and spirit as she labors and then delivers. Help her as she goes through this to remember the promises You have given of good, and life, and blessing. You love this baby more than anyone, and we ask You to protect him/her as he/she comes into our world. Bless Daddy and Mama as they rear this child to maturity, and help this little one to come to know You personally, as soon as possible. Thank You for being the All-Knowing One, and the One in control. Help them to trust in You for everything that pertains to life and happiness. Help these parents to sense Your presence throughout everything, and we ask all of this in Jesus precious’ name, Amen.

  56. Amy says:

    Child birth is the biggest lesson in surrender I have had in my life. Surrender. Don’t fight your body. Your body and your baby know how to do this.

  57. Ana says:

    Something I stumbled upon online which was extremely comforting to me and helped me to make my decision for homebirth at the end of my first pregnancy :”There is a lovely African saying, ““The goat has no midwife but delivers with ease, the sheep has no midwife yet brings forth a live offspring, and you, little mother, will give birth to your baby.” ” If I could go back and give myself advice it would be to start with homebirth from the start and to be patient in the last stages of pushing! Don’t rush! Also, to cut communications with the world for at least the first week after the baby was born.

    I probably found your blog through Kitchen Stewardship. All of the topics you cover are things I’m concerned about and I find you to be the best representation of Real Food and clean living I’ve found in the blog world. You always have a great article that helps me get one step farther or reaffirm current practices. Prayers and love.

  58. christy says:

    Dear Heather
    I found your blog from a giveaway for the Berkey. I really love your sweet, down-to-earth style. I have learned alot of great DIY tips, especially the charcoal for whitening teeth! My husband thought I was nuts but it works!
    I completely agree with all of your views on the natural way of living. I have since been turned off by others approaches that are harsh and controversial.
    I think you are beautiful and your children are as well. I actually remember reading when you revealed your pregnancy and it seems like yesterday (surely not for you LOL!). But I have read your previous birth stories and was very touched. I pray this one goes smooth and quick and blessings on both you and baby!
    You are an inspiration and love getting to know you and your family and look forward to meeting the newest addition!

  59. Mommypotamus,

    First, I say, “you got this!”. Then, “don’t forget to eat in labor, even if you don’t want to and food is gross”. I say both because they’re true. And, yes I quit eating in labor despite knowing better and encouragement from our midwives and doula, so I stalled a bit- lesson learned :)

    Nevertheless, you are doing an awesome job and will continue to do an awesome job! Labor and birth in the way that makes the most sense to you at the time, your body is the master, and your mind is the guide.

    Well wishes and mama hugs!

    Oh, and take your placenta pills as soon as you can! :)

  60. Alyssa Thys says:

    May God bless you and keep you as you bring your little one into the world! <3

  61. Beth says:

    A friend told me about your blog when my family began its journey to a real food lifestyle. My son was diagnosed with a staph infection when he was only 1.5 years old so we began researching any and every way to keep our bodies as healthy as possible and allow them to naturally fight against illness. Your blog has encouraged and challenged me in this journey, not just concerning food, but about life as well.
    In the midst of those contractions I pray that you will be able to lean back and rest, to be confident in your bodies ability to do what women have been doing since the beginning of time. During my first born’s birth, my sister repeated over and over “YOU were created to do this!” That one sentence took me through 14 hours of labor! Mommpotamus, YOU were created to do this!

  62. Maria-Elena says:

    Dear Mommypotamus, I have been a fan for a long time, happily reading your blog and learning so much. I would like to share a special birthing experience that I was blessed to have in the hope that it might be helpful to you.

    When I birthed my first child in the hospital, they’d no sooner gotten me into my room when the first pushing contraction manifested. The nurse was quite cross with me since I’d allowed that to happen without permission – this was a problem since the doctor had not yet arrived. (Honestly… sigh.) I was miffed because I had not tried to push, it was my body and how was I to be blamed for that?

    Three years later, I am at home, quietly working my way through transition with my second child. The midwife arrives and I explain that I am ready to push. I could not decide where to birth the child: standing and leaning against the bed, or on the bed. Finally, the first pushing contraction overtakes me as I am standing next to the bed so leaning against the bed it is. Suddenly, I remember what happened that day in the hospital. Was it possible that I could just let go and let my body to the work? Didn’t my body know best what needed to happen rather than me trying to control the process? Why not? So I relaxed… and slipped into a meditative state in which I felt I was floating back through time, touching all of the women who had come before me, laboring through this time of potential life or death. Suddenly, the sharp pain of the baby’s head crowning yanked me back to the real world, and I thought, okay, enough of this… PUSH! And the baby was born!

    Twenty minutes had elapsed while I had journeyed and during that time my body had essentially brought a ten pound, ten ounce child to bear without any conscious help from me until the very end! Even as large as he was, I had only the smallest of tears, which healed within a few days without the need for stitches. And I had been blessed with one of the most deeply spiritual experiences of my life; a memory that I cherish each year on his birthday (and when I share it with other folks :).

    I wish for you an equally moving experience that you too will treasure forever. Blessings to you and your family!

  63. Alison says:

    Heather, I am so thankful for you and your blog. You mean so much to me and my family. You have helped me become a confident, nurturing, and fiercely protective mother to my two children. I met you in person at the WAPF conference last year and I was 8 weeks pregnant with my child who I thought was spaced too closely to my eldest. You put my mind and heart at ease….I told you about how we learned about lip tie from you and went to see Dr. Kotlow when she was 2 years old….I am so thankful for that post. I had mastitis 6 times before we figured out lip tie. I am so thankful our 4 month old isn’t lip or tongue tied. You are a wonderful gift to this world, I am thankful for the internet so I have you and all you have to share with us. Thank you for what you do, thank you for the example you lead in the WAPF community and beyond. You have helped so many people. God’s blessings to you as you bring the newest member of your family into the world. You are a great mom and he or she is so blessed to have you. You can do it!!

  64. Rachel says:

    I wish you a positive, happy birth! I hope you have whatever your idea of a great birth is. Each of us are unique and deserve to be able to birth in a way that honers out individual needs.

    Whenever driving to a birth this is part of my prayer: dear fother in heaven please bless this mother to be strong, please bless her to have what she needs to birth her baby, please bless her baby to be strong, please all who are present to be intune with the and let them say what will be supportive and guide there hands that they will be blessed. I leave this prayer on your behalf. I know you where designed to birth your baby and you are a strong powerful woman. I hope you draw stanghth from the response here what a beautiful community.

    Rachel

  65. MommaTarr says:

    “We have a secret in our culture, and it’s not that birth is painful. It’s that women are strong.” – Laura Stavoe Harm
    E mail me if you would like a free cloth post partum pad ;)

  66. Karen says:

    Dear Mommypotomus,
    I have been a fan of yours for a few years now. You have inspired me and made me think outside the box on so many occasions. I feel like I am friends with you, especially every time I tell my mom something I learned “from Mommypotomus” (which is quite often!). The cool thing is, I am 1 week behind you in pregnancy, and you have been SUCH an inspiration to me and have made me think about so many things that I otherwise may not have thought about (co-sleeping, placenta-eating, etc!). So, I will be thinking of you and praying for your delivery as I’ll be in my last week of pregnancy when you deliver (assuming we both deliver around our due dates!). Love & blessings from your virtual friend & fan, Karen.

  67. Raia Torn says:

    Yahweh your God is among you, a warrior who saves. He will rejoice over you with gladness. He will bring you quietness with His love. He will delight in you with shouts of joy. (Zephaniah 3:17)

    Indeed, God is my salvation; I will trust Him and not be afraid, for Yah, the LORD, is my strength and my song. He has become my salvation. (Isaiah 12:2)

    May the One who created you and your new little blessing be your strength and your song. May you feel His joy and love as you bring your child into this world.

  68. Kim Dunlop says:

    I love birth stories and am looking forward to hearing your story when it happens. I’m sure it will be great.

    I found your blog on a recommendation of a childhood friend. Our paths had parted in junior high school as we went different ways in life, then when we reconnected 10 or so years later, we had so much in common again. She suggested I read your morning sickness article, but warned me that your blog was addictive. She was right. I found a community that paralleled so much of what I was trying to do in my life. It gave me great comfort to know there were others who were confident in their decisions not to vaccinate and I could be too. It gave me the motivation to continue to pluck away at any processed food left in our diet and armored me with knowledge as I dealt with differing opinions along the way. I’m very happy with all the steps I’ve made and you, though we’ve never met, have been the catalyst to much of that. Having a baby can really alter your perception on life and I want the best for my munchkins. You’ve taught me a lot and we are all benefitting.

    So, babies, you’re about to have one! Yey!

    I would remind you that pain is good. The more pain you experience, the closer you are to holding your little one. Wish for more pain, want for pain, then trust your body to know what to do and let it do that. I tried very hard to just stay out of the way and let my body take over. I found that acceptance of pain and letting my body take charge to be the mist beneficial things during labour. Good luck mama! You will do great.

  69. Julie says:

    Happy almost birthday babypotamus!
    Mommypotamus I found your blog just a few months ago and the information you post has changed my life. I love your blog and read it all the time.

    As for baby birthing, Mama you got this! Your body is made for this and you will do beautifully! Take each pressure wave as it comes and relax into them allowing them to open you. Your body is smart and knows what to do, trust it and trust yourself. Wishing you happy healthy birthing time.

  70. Nicky B says:

    Dear Heather,
    You are already a wonderful mother to your two beautiful children and I cannot wait to meet your new addition. Your family is truly blessed to have you.
    Your blog and Facebook posts never cease to interest me -I find myself reading one of your articles at least once a day. I started reading your blog before I even had a baby and found your articles had a unique effect to make me stop and think. The information you share has definitely opened my eyes and challenged me to open my mind and I thank you for that. I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in June and I really appreciated your information on lip and tongue ties. We beat some tough breastfeeding challenges and my daughter is now EBF, 4 months and going strong!
    The birth of my daughter was fast and furious, and that’s how I wanted it (well fast, maybe not so serious!). I wish you a smooth birth and I hope it’s everything you want. Keep in mind, that the labor is temporary and you will soon be holding a precious new being in your arms.
    Lots of Love, Nicky

  71. Sasha says:

    The best thing my Prenatal yoga instructor ever said to me (often), though I’m sure you already know this, was “you already have everything your baby needs.”

  72. Maia says:

    Dear Mommypotomus,
    I’m very blessed to actually know you from college! :) My favorite labor of my 6 labors so far was my last labor at home. The things that helped me were my birth playlist that was filled with scripture based praise songs that I tried to learn the words to before labor so they could be my meditation, and the other thing that helped me was asking my midwife during each contraction if it was okay that I pretended that I wasn’t in labor. Haha. I breathed through them and it was very surreal. We are due again very near when you are (November) so I will be praying for you as I prepare for my upcoming birth as well!!! I pray that your birth goes very calmly and that you can focus on working with your body by staying fear-free to experience as little pain as possible. I pray your baby is in the best position for a quick and safe delivery. I’m excited to try a home waterbirth this time. I know you’ve done this, so I just wanted you to know that you are one of the people to inspire me to try it! I’ve also learned SOOO much from your blogs about becoming more natural and how to more easily make yummy things that are actually healthy! We even bought the water kefir kit you blogged about and we’ve been loving it!!! Thanks for your dedication to all of your readers! This is such a great idea!!! Blessings!!! ❤️

  73. Heather says:

    **deep breath** There are no words that could express my gratitude for the generous words you all have written here. Thank you with all my heart!

  74. Niki says:

    Mommypottumus,

    I can never thank you enough for the wealth of knowledge that has helped gain me and my friends and family health. I found you via a friend sending me your video on how to make coconut milk. I have learned so much from your blog since that day! I do not have children yet, but I know more then most new moms and I love sharing the information with them. Just the other night my “new mom” sister-in – law called me crying with breast feeding issues. I had to laugh, first , because I knew exactly what to do and secondly she has 5 sisters and a mother who breast fed 8 children and they all live down the street, but she called me 6 hours away, a person with no children to see what to do.
    I can only thank you for this knowledge! I have even thought of becoming a doula in the future. I love love your birth stories and can’t wait to hear this one. I pray for enormous strength, speed, and peace for y’all!!!!
    Love in Christ!!!
    P.s. I feel like distant pen pals and hope we can meet someday!!!

  75. Vanessa says:

    You can do this! And when you are done, you will have another blessing, another precious baby, to hold in your arms. Look at how God loves you, to trust you with so much treasure! :) *hugs*

  76. Elise says:

    Good golly, I think I found you way back when Oliver was tiny, through your Nourished Baby eBook. I was a little weirded out by some of the things I had never heard or thought of but pulled in by your authenticity, kindness and devotion to figuring out what the best options were for your family. You are now my go to source for natural momma advice! I suggest your blog to friends more than any other because I know they will be in good hands:)
    You very much influenced me to seek a more natural birth experience with my fourth baby. Thank you for guiding me towards the peaceful, empowering and life changing unmediated waterbirth of my daughter Georgia Wren.
    During labor the biggest help was thinking of the contractions as waves – and remembering that Jesus calmed the storm and the waves with a word. Having a soothing and encouraging playlist going in the background was wonderful too.
    I pray that you will be rested and at peace when you go into labor, that your older babies will be healthy and content so you can focus on the task at hand. I pray that God will give you strength and wisdom, that your body will speak clearly to you and you will find a rhythem in labor that expediates the intense moments and brings baby quickly. I pray that every sweet moment will be slow and glowing- that you soak up the goodness of God and the joy of being the wonderful creation that you are in Him, fullfilling the most selfless and sacred responsibility of giving life!
    Sheesh- now I’m crying!
    I’m thankful for you and your family- for feeling less alone in the world of deliberate living.
    Can’t wait to hear the news of baby’s birth!
    {feel free to wait until my b-day, Nov 10th ;) it’s a good day!}

  77. Tori says:

    Great blessings come through great hardship. No matter what you’re feeling, don’t forget that you are about to have another beautiful baby, God’s greatest blessings to us. You are loved!

  78. Kelly says:

    Dear Heather
    Every contraction gets that baby closer to your arms. And baby is working so hard to get to you too. It’s a team effort and just when you think you can do it no more…..your little love is in your arms and all is right in this world.
    Much love,
    Kelly

  79. Tasha Hilderman says:

    I love this idea!
    Consider having a Navajo Laughing Party for the baby after it arrives.

    I offer you a Metta (lovingkindness) meditation:

    May you be safe
    May you be strong
    May you be healthy
    May you deliver with ease.

    (You can change the ‘you’ to ‘I’ or “my baby” and repeat to yourself in labor). Best wishes!

  80. Melissa Cline says:

    My absolute favorite late pregnant affirmation is from a Peggy O’Mara book:
    My body has everything my baby needs. My body knows how to give birth. My baby knows when to be born.

    I said that one a lot, usually in the shower, during both of my pregnancies. I hope it brings you the peace and joy it brought me.

  81. Kate says:

    Dearest Mommypotamus,
    You are a beautiful soul inside and out. I hope you have the beautiful and wonderful birth experience you deserve. Remember to breathe, relax your jaw, and unclench your hands. Light and love!

  82. Andie says:

    Dear mommypotamus,

    You have helped me to grow and learn so much on my journey as a mother and I thank you for that. I can only imagine how much of an inspiration you are and will be for your children based on how much you have inspired me. You’ll be in my thoughts!

  83. elda says:

    Dear Mommypotamus,

    I found you when I was at a very low point in my life. My 2-year old’s front teeth were crumbling, despite having followed a Weston Price diet during pregnancy and infancy. He had the whitest strongest teeth at first, and they eventually they developed brown spots and were literally crumbling. The pediatric dentist had just recommended a crown under general anesthesia to deal with the cavities. The thought of putting a two-year old under was unacceptable to me. I was sobbing in front of the computer when I found your page. That another mother had walked in my same shoes and had found answers meant so much to me! I am sure my boy had an undiagnosed lip tie, much like your daughter. He also woke up every 40min- 2 hours to nurse well into his toddlerhood. This took a load off my shoulders, because I had been blamed for causing the problem in the first place by breastfeeding him so long. Thanks to your article on healing cavities, I found a holistic dentist, put my boy on the Rami Nigel diet, and breastfed him for another year and a half until he was ready to wean. His teeth have remineralized and he is healthy and happy. I bookmarked your page since, and I refer all my pregnant friends to it. I was very impressed that, despite my very active research and background in traditional diets (having grown up that way in a small mediterranean country), I could still find such a wealth of information in your blog.

    When you announced you were pregnant, I remember I was at the point of thinking of having another baby. Your blog announcement reminded me about the exhilaration of looking into a positive home test. It was the kick in the pants I needed, because just like with my first, I was trying to get this that and the other done (in other words, achieve world peace) before conceiving. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant with my second.

    I wish you a wonderful delivery, and all the best in your life, for you continue to inspire, regardless of how many similar blogs pop up on the internet. Yours rules!

  84. Marcie says:

    “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart” -Jeremiah 1:5

    13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
    14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
    -Psalm 139:13-14

    http://www.passionatehomemaking.com/2009/08/scriptural-encouragement-for-preparing-giving-birth.html

  85. Aril says:

    Never heard of this before but I like it more than a baby shower, though I do wish I can do your toe nails!!

    You are such a beautiful momma and I love how dedicated and true you are. I bet you are going to have a good labor and you will keep strong during those painful contractions. And you will bring into this world a beautiful baby. Who will grow to be lovely person who not only loves himself/herself but everyone else. So keep pushing momma your little angel is almost in your arms. And will keep you awake for many nights but she/he will be one of the nicest reminders of how beautiful life is.

  86. Emma says:

    I found your website while researching natural birth about two years ago. Your birth stories were incredibly inspiring for me. I had my first child a month ago and her birth went just as planned. I would remind myself that each contraction was one step closer to meeting my baby. You are strong and I know your labor will be beautiful. I can’t wait to read the birth story!

  87. Congratulations on your upcoming birth, Mommypotamus! I found you via a friend’s link to you on Facebook, linking to your post on magnesium and morning sickness, which I found absolutely fascinating. Stored that one away for whenever I get pregnant. :-)
    My sister just gave birth less than two weeks ago to a beautiful baby girl, and I was privileged to watch the whole thing. It was a textbook, natural, home birth, and here’s hoping and praying that yours is the same! The women who have commented above have said it well: G-d did design us especially for this moment. We are built to bear! May your child come out into the world with ease and with no harm, for a good life of peace and health, finding favor and grace. :-) Blessings, and thanks for your fun and informative blog!

  88. angie says:

    Dear Mommypotamus.. .
    As I lay here nursing my two week old, I think about what helped me through my 24 hrs of labor.
    There were several images that helped me during the contractions. I am very nature oriented so I would visualize either a lotus blossom blooming, or i imagined tree rings getting larger…to help with focusing on opening up and dilating.

    • angie says:

      When I got to 5 cm dilated, I opted for an epideral. My initial plan was to have a natural birth with as little interventions as possible, but they had to induce because my water broke when i lost my mucus plug. I chose the epideral because i knew that i needed to rest, otherwise my energy would have been spent fighting the rest of labor instead of surrendering . For a split second i thought i might be making a mistake and end up regretting the choice i made. Once the epideral kicked in, i knew i had made the right choice for me and the baby. two hours after getting the epideral i was 10 cm and ready to push. almost half an hour of pushing and my sweet little girl was in my arms. this is my first child, and nothing can compare to that first moment my daughter and i locked eyes. so… in the depths of your labor experience.. however it turns out… stay flexible with change and remember its all about that moment you get to hold your precious new love

  89. Nicole says:

    Mommypotamus! You’re about to have a baby! My advice is to breathe. Your baby needs oxygen. My third labor was my easiest, I think mostly because I knew what to expect and finally had the confidence to believe I could really handle it. As you know , the rewards are tremendous , so sit back and relish the beauty and wonder of labor and delivery( oh, and the little prize you get for all your hardwork)! Congrats !

  90. Angelina says:

    Mommypotamus, I found you while looking for recipes and information about leaky gut while trying to heal my son and I. Your knowledge has been amazingly helpful, not only for the information but also being able to find a community of others who have had the strength to follow this journey..as doing it alone is scary.
    I will be thinking about you over these next days – some things that helped me:
    Remember that you *are* the storm. No need to fear or fight the waves – welcome them because they each bring you closer to meeting your baby. Try to let go and find joys and laughter in between the waves, however you find it by watching your family and friends as they support you, or if you need to be alone, by picturing the love that you have around you. (There is an awful lot). And remember to breath….just breath.
    Sending love your way :)

  91. Danielle Rayner says:

    Here are some of my favorites,
    Breath. Open. Birth
    your contractions are not stronger than you, because they are you!
    Surrender
    Trust birth
    Your body is made to birth
    mama and baby work as a team

    I will be thinking of you and send love and blessings to you on your birth journey.

  92. Diana says:

    Im so excited for you and this new journey. Receiving moment to moment the messages conveyed by your mind body and heart, working together with your child and getting through the fear, and the power and accepting the surrender. Get primal, you got this! RRRRROOOOAAAARRR

  93. Laura says:

    What an authentic beautiful heart opening journey you are on. Thank you for including me with such grace.
    What helped me during the home births of my two children was to tap into the well of support. There is so much support for you from all of the women who have come before; all of the women who have birthed their children. We are all here for you. Call on us. Reach through the veil and rest on us. You have exactly what you need. You are enough.

    Many many blessings on your birth.

  94. Megan says:

    Dear Mommypotamus,
    My friends-in-real-life consider you a friend of ours too! You don’t know how many times your name has been mentioned in passing or in emails (did you see mommypotamus’ post on ____? or where did you get that recipe? it’s from mommypotamus. Oh yeah, love her!) I can’t remember when exactly I came across your blog but it was a few years ago at least when I was in the middle of my transition over to real food. I realized, wow, there’s a LOT of things in common here and so much I could learn! My friends and I appreciate you for all the research and hard work you put into being a mommypotamus and I wish you the best in your upcoming labor & delivery.
    My thoughts:
    Your body was designed to do this.
    God will see you through. His power is made perfect in weakness.
    There is no temptation we cannot overcome.
    Every good and perfect gift is from above.
    Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.
    Jesus went through the worst anyone could have ever experienced — rest in Him and He’ll carry you through.
    Congratulations and thank you for sharing this really cool tradition! If I’m ever blessed to have another baby I will be printing out all these thoughts and savoring them :D

  95. Isa says:

    Heather:
    May your child be another blessing into your home and your family enjoy every single joy a child can bring. Thank you so much for sharing this with us! May God be by your and your family’s side at every single moment, comforting and bringing you wisdom.
    So thankful for everything you’ve taught me, the laughs you’ve brought and the smiles you’ve painted over my face, I send you a big hug all the way from Mexico.

  96. Linda VanHorn Otteson says:

    A Blessingway
    As we all make our way
    On this eternal yet fleeting journey
    Breathe, believe, receive…It’s all happening
    Being incarnate, being One
    Ascending in blissful fun
    Elemental harmony
    Omnipotent beauty
    Down to this dense Earth plane
    Spirit of Love for a lifetime to reign
    From the high desert of New Mexico
    Blessings to be deep in the know
    And ecstatically enjoy the ebb and flow
    Of Creation
    May transition from one realm to another be serene, smooth & so very sweet.
    Love, Linda

  97. Leslie says:

    I am praying for you!!! You are such an inspiration to me as I try to nourish my own family. I found you about a year and a half ago while searching for a recipe. I have been hooked ever since. Thank you for your dedication to your blog, to Real Food, and to natural living.

    As for your birth, stay strong as you ride the waves of your contractions knowing that at end of your journey you will tenderly be holding your newest blessing.

  98. Kate says:

    Oh, Heather. You have blessed my life in so many ways via this blog as I completely change my family’s life to improve our health and align more fully with our values; I’m happy to participate in your Mother Blessing! My children were both born with midwives, and the second at home. It’s such an incredibly sweet, calm way for a baby to enter the larger world, and I wish for you that your birth of babypotamus goes as you hope. During both my births, I found such strength in reminding myself that my experience was POWERFUL, rather than thinking of it as “painful”. May you feel the same!

    My love and very best wishes to the soon-to-be family of five.

  99. Laura says:

    Dear Mommypotamus,
    I can’t really remember how I found your website, but I sure am glad I did!! You have given me so much inspiration that I can do this Real Food lifestyle and I love all your posts. You are a genius. I have been lately really appreciating all your baby and family ideas as I’m expecting my first (!) next year. Thank you for all you do!!
    Congratulations on your birthing soon. When I think about it, even though I have yet to have one myself, it helps to think about all the women that have ever given birth. It’s an interesting connection across time I think. You will do amazing!

  100. Michelle Rose says:

    Dear Mommypotomus,

    I discovered your website when I began gravitating toward the crunchy end of the spectrum about two years ago. I have been seeking out blogs that would be helpful, encouraging and educational and came across yours. I have found you inspiring and so helpful! You share wonderful information in a manner that is gracious and gentle. Thank you for making the world a brighter and better place!

    I pray for a safe and blessed birth with no complications and for a beautiful, healthy baby! I hope all the best for you and your sweet family! :-)

    Blessings,
    Michelle Rose

  101. Erin says:

    For the blessingway of my first child – seven of my close girlfriends gathered at my home, while several of my close women from afar gathered “virtually.” Let me tell you – these are powerful connections! After about one hour together, I went into full blown active labor at 38 weeks. Having the strength of generations of women around me – physically and in spirit – was profound. After a couple of hours, all physical presence was dispersed but the connection spiritually still there. Five hours later, my girl was born healthy and at home.

    I commend you in your strength as a woman and mother, and for calling upon the energy of like-minded women together through your words and your blog – and this virtual Blessingway. All of us, and generations of women before us are here with you as you experience what your body was made to do. As you birth your baby into this world, may you feel this support , encouragement and strength from within. You rock, mama!

  102. Hannah says:

    Dear Heather,
    I don’t remember how I found your blog, but I keep reading because everything is so helpful to me, and I think you are funny and so, so smart!
    When I was in labor with my son, and felt like I couldn’t go on, my husband said, “Our baby can’t wait to meet you!” That gave me the strength to get back at it.
    So I’m saying to you… your baby can’t wait to meet you! keep up the good work!
    God bless you, your baby, and your whole family!
    Hannah

  103. Jenny Brooks says:

    I found you today, when a friend of mine pinned one of you’re posts. :)
    Praying that God wraps you and your family in his warm embrace during this pregnancy and the delivery. I pray for grace and peace and joy!
    I haven’t been here long but I was still encouraged by reading your blog. You got this girl!!

  104. Renee says:

    I am not a Mama but I love the warmth and inviting presence of your website. If I get to be a Mama someday, I know that I will refer to the pages of this website again and again for advice, wisdom, encouragement and lots of recipes! Here is a prayer for you:
    Dear God,
    Thank you for choosing this wonderful woman to be a vessel of life giving force. Make her strong in her contractions and a Warrior as she pushes her child from her womb and out into the waiting arms of a loving Mother, Father and Siblings. Let her recovery be swift and strength restored. Thank you for her and her family and let her light continue to shine among us. Thank you God, for the Gift of Life. Amen.

  105. Molly says:

    Heather,
    For a while, I thought that I didn’t want kids. But God has REALLY changed my view on that and now I’m 13 weeks pregnant! You have been very influential in this process of thought change as I think you are the COOLEST MOM EVER! You have shown me how meaningful and fun mommy hood is. Thank you! I pray blessings and all health for baby #3 and for a speedy birth and recovery.

  106. ( : Kate : ) says:

    Thank you for the joy that you share in nourishing your family; body, mind and spirit!
    As labor draws near and begins to wash over me, I like to think on 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
    Many blessings to you as your prepare to hold your newest little blessing! Maybe God fill you with His peace and joy as you bring a new life into this world… what a privilege!

  107. Crystal says:

    This sounds absolutely lovely. I had been hoping to have a blessingway but as we are moving region when I’m 36 weeks pregnant I had been thinking about having a postal blessingway with my close friends that are being left behind. I really look forward to hearing more about the strength the love of others gives you during your labour. Sending you beautiful, positive birthing vibes.

  108. I can’t remember how I first found you, but I’m sure glad I did! I learned so much from your site while preparing for my labor and delivery, and I continue to learn more pertinent information as my sweet daughter grows.

    I pray that God blesses you with a fabulous day (or night) as you experience the absolute joy and empowerment of birth! I know you and Daddypotamus and the kids will enjoy adding to your family. I’m very much looking forward to the video that you’ll share with us. My very best wishes!

  109. Rebecca says:

    Heather , you are such an inspiration to so many people, you make such healthy choices for yourself and family! Your strong !

  110. becky says:

    Hey sweet lady! I have often enjoyed the company of your blog posts. Thank you for candidly sharing your journey with us. I know that this sweet child will be a blessing to you. I have three children and each one contributes life and love and their own uniqueness to the family!

    Here is my prayer for you:
    Precious Jesus, I pray that you surround her with your peace. That you will wrap around her in comfort and strength. Be her rock. I pray that her child will be healthy and will bring much joy to his or her family. Amen

    I am excited for the next part of your journey and look forward to hearing about it. Lots of love, Becky Z

  111. Christa says:

    My favorite birth quote:

    “There is a secret in our culture, and it’s not that birth is painful. It’s that women are strong.” ~ Laura Stavoe Harm

  112. So blessed to have stumbled upon Mommypotamus while looking for natural help with a fever quite a while ago. You will be awesome and birth that baby with a saucy flair! Sending prayers your way.

  113. Katie says:

    You are currently doing the most beautiful thing anyone can do…giving birth to your new baby. Men can’t do it. Only you. Do you know how special and wonderful you are? You were given this gift so that it may be carried on into future generations. Nothing this great comes without struggle. This pain will pass. As soon as you look into those tiny eyes, it will all disappear. You are so strong, so beautiful, and soon it will all make sense again. You can do this. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  114. Jo says:

    Wishing you a safe and quick labor! I love babies!

  115. You both are so amazingly fabulous, and inspirational. I frequently stumble onto your blog in my journeys around the interwebs, and your posts never fail to make me smile. And this one gave me goosebumps.

    So, as a non-mom, I don’t know the specifics, other than…PUUUUUUUSH, smile, and know that soon you’ll be holding a little person in your arms that will challenge and delight you in the years to come. ::hugs::

  116. Mindy Wood says:

    You are strong. Your body is able. Birth is one of natures greatest miracles. It is the most natural thing your body could do! Let your mind rest while your body does the work.

    Congratulations and I can’t wait to hear about your newest addition :)

  117. Heather and Daniel. I hope today goes easy and the way you want it to be. I had my baby via the conventional route (before I knew better) so it’s hard for me to say anything related to natural births. I can say, however, that I wish you both a safe and easy delivery and I am sending you all sorts of positive vibes your way.

    I can’t wait to see photos!

    I can’t remember how I first found Mommypotamus but when I did, I fell in love! You are such a wonderful woman Heather and I look up to you and how you run your blog. You are an inspiration to all of us!

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