Suggestions are still trickling in to my nifty little suggestion box and I’ve just got to say, ya’ll have the best questions!
I’m interested in your birth plan for baby numba two. What’s a MUST have and a must not for The Mommypotamus on the big day?
Genevieve at Mama Natural
To say I am the nesting type would be a whopping understatement. I am the ultimate nester. Unfortunately, due to the fact that we are doing whatever we can to sell this house in the next two weeks despite the fact that we haven’t found a house to buy (that we can afford), I am currently without a nest at all. I have no idea where we’ll be in 6-10 weeks. That has made planning rather difficult.
The upside of our less-than-ideal circumstances is that it’s got me focused on people rather than places. Here are the key players:
Husband – Daniel is doing double-duty for this birth. Like many husbands he is taking on the role of comforter and encourager. However, I am also looking to him to provide a little something extra this time.
When we found out we were pregnant I thought we had plenty of time to find a new home, but that seems more unlikely with each passing day. Having a home of my own to lovingly prepare for the big day is part of my nesting ritual. It calms me. It helps me to feel prepared and ready. Most likely, it’s not gonna happen.
The thing is, I am not a big talker when I’m in pain. I went through almost two days of labor without making so much as a sound until my midwives asked me to try not to internalize so much. I tried yelling for them. It felt weird. Anyway, because I internalize when I need to keep my focus, Daniel felt at times like he was unnecessary during Katie’s birth.
This time will be different. I trust him and I’m going to need him to help me adjust to whatever circumstance we find ourselves in. Our marriage is good but life is hectic and sometimes we fail to connect. We are making an effort to correct that so that when the time comes we will be completely on the same page.
Midwife/Chiropractor/Friend – Dr. Cindy came to my first birth in the role of chiropractor. Her adjustment helped me move past the 12 hour puking streak I was on. Since then, she has become one of my best friends and my best resource for all things birth and health related. I am grateful that she will be acting in all of these capacities as my lead midwife on the big day. Note: Last year Cindy and I attended our close friends birth together (she was the midwife and I was the photographer). It is truly amazing the kind of bond we all have and I hope it will only deepen as we raise our kids together.
Doula – We are in the process of interviewing doulas right now, but we know we want one present. We didn’t have one with Katie because I thought my mom could act in that role. Um, no.
“Doulas often use the power of touch and massage to reduce stress and anxiety during labor. According to physicians Marshal Klaus and John Kennell, massage helps stimulate the production of natural oxytocin. The pituitary gland secretes natural oxytocin to the bloodstream which causes uterine contractions and also secretes it to the brain, which results in a feeling of well being, drowsiness and a raised pain threshold. Synthetic IV oxytocin cannot cross into the blood stream and brain, so it increases contractions without the positive psychological effects of natural oxytocin.”
Sign me up! Besides, Gigi will be staying with Katie at the birth. If Katie chooses to be present Gigi will help her understand what’s going on. If not, they’ll do something else.
Birth Photographer – Although I can’t really call birth photography an essential, Lynsey Stone is a confirmed part of our birth team and I am so excited to have her.
We have nothing but a few grainy pics and a short video (in which almost nothing is visible) from Katie’s birth. The whole experience was so surreal I don’t remember much. This time I plan to document every moment, which I’ll probably end up sharing here ; – )
Birth Tub – My happy, happy place. I cannot imagine giving birth any other way. Water birth:
- Helps with relaxation
- Provides the ability to more easily change positions, allowing for widening of the pelvis and easier descent of the baby.
- Helps the tissues of the pelvic floor to relax and stretch more easily.
- Reduces the incidence of perineal trauma (tearing). The need for episiotomy also decreases.
- Snacks for me and the birth team
- Peaceful music
If I Can Get It Done, I’d Also Like:
- Birth Day gift for Katie – I’d love to give Katie something meaningful on the day she officially becomes a big sister. Jewelry seems a little to mature for her, but I was thinking that something like her very own “diaper bag” and maybe a sling for her baby. What do ya’ll think?
- Birth Day activity for Katie – If baby comes during the day Gigi will probably take her to the pool. I’m not sure what to do at night if she’s not able to sleep. Probably read books or something.
- Calming essential oils
- Scented beeswax or non-GMO soy candles – A room FULL of them. Yeah right!
- Beautiful flowers in my birthing room
- A home of my own to birth in!!!
What we will avoid
- Cord clamping – We will cut the umbilical cord after it has completely stopped pulsing to avoid infant anemia and potential brain damage
- Vitamin K shot – totally unnecessary and potentially harmful
- Eye goo – I am 100% certain that I do not have gonorrhea or chlamydia and therefore my child is not at risk to being exposed to these diseases in the birthing process
- Hep B vaccine – Hepatitis B is primarily transferred through sexual contact or via blood (needles, etc.) In addition, most people that contract Hep B fully recover from it. On the other hand, the vaccine itself contains preservatives such as aluminum (a neurotoxin). For us, the risks outweigh the benefits.
- Circumcision (if we have a boy)
We’re all looking forward to baby #2, though he/she doesn’t have a name yet and we’re all so busy we sometimes feel that we haven’t soaked in the anticipation like we did with baby #1.
The clock is ticking! So while I re-read my list and make sure I didn’t leave anything out, I’d like to hear from you: what will YOU do differently with your next birth? Any new must haves on your radar? Any must avoids?